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to what extent does our self-interpretation create behavioural boundaries?

Self-interpretation and behaviour share an intimate relationship. Amy's video illuminates the impacts that our body language has on the way we feel, and consequently the way we interpret who we are. She also reveals the impacts our self-concept can have on our behavioural decisions, with the example of her belief that she was not capable enough for Princeton creating an urge to not pursue her course

This made me think, does our memory, the accumulative account of our PREVIOUS actions create a belief system that defines behavioural boundaries?
I mean in the long term, if we repeatedly behave in a particular way, such as being shy, submissive does this increase the rigidity in which we characterise our "self" with these attributes?

If we do attribute our "self" these traits, could this self-interpretation be internalised into the unconscious or memory, subsequently having an influence over spontaneous behaviour. I say "spontaneous" behaviour to describe the more habitual actions we feel are natural to us, so the actions that are influenced by our immediate reactive thoughts/emotions when interacting with others and the environment.

It is my personal belief that, so many people are limited by these "behavioural boundaries" that don't really exist! They are just a consequence of the way we identify the amalgamated thoughts, emotions, memories and experiences that are the foundation of our self-concept. I also belief that emotions and thoughts are ephemeral, and that we are constantly adding to our bank of experience so our "self" is continuously changing, which is why there is no benefit to a rigid identity. If people could understand the impermanence of "self" could we be more capable of transcending our behavioural boundaries by becoming more aware of the nature the "self", using the flexibility in action to diversify our self qualities in the most uninhibited way.

I don't study psychology so sorry for any insufficiencies, id appreciate any relative thoughts


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    Oct 6 2012: Certainly we are the sum-total of our thoughts. If we dwell too much on a thought it does lead to a certain way of behaving; and when we start behaving in that particular manner, what started as a thought would now become a memory.
    Usually, memories define our behavioural boundaries; because experiences affects our perception. From experiences we could learn, or become hurt, or become confident, or become depressed or fearful or hopeless..etc.
    We are constantly changing; but the foundation of our thoughts have been laid in the early years.
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      Oct 8 2012: Yeah, I totally agree with the idea we are constantly changing, impermanence is indisputable. I actually think that it is liberating to view yourself in this way, it aids you in permitting change and development rather than adhering to a rigidly formulated self-concept.
      However, I enjoy this feeling due to the belief I can guide the changes in my decided direction, whereas some endure early experiences that create a foundation with a framework which is largely more inhibitive to flexible change than others. Like children that develop empathetic issues due to not being brought up in a safe, caring and love-consumed environment.

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