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Kashaf Mamoon

Computer science engineering student,

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Money or Life ??

From childhood it is said too have life you have to earn money but while earning all these we always think we have money but we can enjoy the life why it is so why people make them so busy in earning money so that they can enjoy their life is it necessary to focus that much on money and dont able to get a bit of enjoyment from the life ???

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    Oct 4 2012: Kashaf, Why must there be one or the other. I see people who use their money wisely and some foolishly. What is important to one is a want not a need to another. If I have a cell phonhe that allows me to send and recieve calls do I really need to update to a cell phone that does everything but give birth .... no. In the states we call that peer pressure or keeping up with the Jones'. I can buy jeans from Levi for $20 or Gucci for $200. Both will cover my backside well so why blow $180.

    It does not cost much to read, play, and interact with your children. Nor to take your wife on a "date" out to eat or something that you both enjoy.

    The real issue here it me is .... are these WANTS ... or are they NEEDS.

    I work to support my family and my lifestyle. (actually I'm retired). If either is lacking then you (and the wife if married) need to reassess your job or your lifestyle.

    Poor families go to the park for picnics .... rich families go to the islands for the weekend. Happiness does not depend on where you are or where you go ... but what you do with the time you have there.

    All the best. Bob.
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    Oct 2 2012: Good things are only good when they are pursued without selfishness and pride. When good things are pursued by the wrong methods, or in the wrong ways, or too much, the individual pursuing the things becomes bad.

    We need money to buy a few neccessities and to afford a few luxuries. But our life is like a body with many parts. If we only focus on getting more money we could hurt people by cheating them, or hurt family members by not showing our care, or we could endanger our health by our obsessive thoughts of money.
    We are born into a family, and a community, we belong to a society, and a nation.
    We should give every aspect of life and living its due attention; and not just focus on a part at the expense of the other.
    Money can not buy love and happiness; and these two make living worthwhile.
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      Oct 4 2012: Sir,
      what you told is absolutely right but the thing is that in general the people doesn't understand these things so ..........

      Life is like body i really appreciate because no one wants to know how we should manage our life so that we can enjoy our life happily
  • Oct 15 2012: Some intellectuals view the middle class with contempt. The popularity of the middle class is a sign of human wisdom.

    A middle class life is a balance between activities that produce money and activities that spend money to provide comfort and enjoyment. Many middle class folks could make more money for themselves if they chose to do so, simply by getting a second job or working more hours. Most middle class people would like to have more money, so they can spend it and enjoy themselves. But they actually choose a balance.

    Of course, this option is not available to everyone because it requires a level of productivity that some people cannot attain.
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    Oct 9 2012: no money no life, no life without mony, so we must be equal to how get mony and be happyines ourself ,we shoulden't work all time with neglect recriation...
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    Oct 7 2012: I think:
    (1) Money is for life.
    (2) Life is for keeping our DNA alive.
    (3) Enjoying life (VALID happiness) consists of many “a-step-better”s for keeping DNA alive rather than money.
    “VALID happiness is the short time feeling of things being a-step-better for keeping one’s own DNA alive.”

    Wrong?
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      Oct 8 2012: valid reason may be short time but our life is also short to enjoy the life we should be able to take out few time from our busy scheduled ..... if we will not enjoy our life then how can you expect that our upcoming generation will enjoy the life and they will not bother about money ......

      if the future come the usage of money will increase and the future generation guys will more focus on the money not in the life

      its my thought but i respect you views

      and thanks for you precious views on this
  • Oct 6 2012: If you don't have a plan, be sure you are in somebody else's plan.
    Get a degree, get a job, earn money , be a player ! Maybe you even don't want to be a player ?
    To have your own plan you need courage .
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    Oct 4 2012: It can be frustrating to see people living their lives like that when you feel that their lives could be lived in a more meaningful way. Chasing money, jobs, promotions, girlfriends, etc...and these desires can never be satiated.

    ON THE SURFACE: it would be interesting to ask folks what their foundation for living is and how often do they ask themselves or remind themselves of it? Instead of blindly going after the next paycheck, the next raise, etc. We fail to realize it is all about experiencing the journey.

    ON A DEEPER LEVEL: we help others live more meaningful lives by 'being the change', by living more meaningful lives ourselves.
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    Oct 2 2012: I believe its called 'filling the void'.
    People are brought up to believe that money is the 'be all and end all' of life and existence, so people devote their lives to pursue it. Unfortunately because of this the aspects of the character that makes them *THEM* disappears to a large extent
    -Can't have a hobby - have to work
    -Can't have time to yourself - have to study
    -Can't do what you want - have obligations
    -Can't enjoy life - need to earn money

    So to fill the ever-growing void people try and fill the lost part of themselves with materialism (shiny objects, big houses etc etc) anything that can help re-define the parts of them that they've lost, all of which costs money...so they work more..

    Thats my theory.
  • Oct 25 2012: Balance.
    Easy to say, right?
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      Oct 25 2012: life first ,money second
      • Oct 25 2012: Money allows You to live enriching experiences too. Maybe those two things are not exclusive one another :)
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    Oct 20 2012: ı think both of them is essential for our life but we must create a balance between money and life.For instance the middle class always evaluates money is everything and people who have much money are the luckiest people in the world according to the middle class people ....As a result of people don't have to prefer one from them the significant is balance
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    Oct 19 2012: get rid of both ..... and just live
  • Oct 5 2012: Money is definitely a means for enjoying Life but not an END in itself. Today lot of Politicians, Power brokers, Big Industrialists have made lot of Money and kept in tax haven countries other than their Swiss Accounts. However, I believe that their Life is not enjoyable as much as a person who finds solace in what he / she is having.

    One of my friend told me... IF ONE RUNS BEHIND MONEY, MONEY RUNS FASTER...

    In such a race, one will meet an end in one's Life without enjoying Life.
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      Oct 8 2012: yes i totally agree with your friends saying "IF ONE RUNS BEHIND MONEY, MONEY RUNS FASTER..."
  • Oct 4 2012: I prefer both.

    looking at money: it had got two sides. (no mater in which country)

    One side reads: LOOSE IT!
    other side reads: USE IT!

    There is two way you can see it:
    1. you loose your time to work for it (money) - you loose your life, your time, and maybe your money too.
    2. you use your time to use it (money) - you make sure that your money works for you.

    "Do what you love" is a great saying but the question no one asks, is "Do what you love for who?"
    for you ? or for someone else?

    you go to school / university, and then look for a job. (JOB stands for Just Over Broke)
    or
    you drop out of university and start to work for yourself (enough times passes by, the guys with degree will work for you)

    look at the History of Entrepreneurs, Hardly 5 % has got university degree.
    and the 95 % who does the right job - looks for the ones who has got degree so they can do the job right.

    now, I want both, to live the life to the fullest and I want money to helps other to do so


    These talks my come handy:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKHTawgyKWQ&feature=relmfu
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXM7MpoVAD0&feature=my_liked_videos&list=LLSrVPXhDOjuhNva1dH1I53g
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9XRPbFIN4lk&feature=relmfu
  • Oct 4 2012: The answer to your question is largely based on where your circumstances.

    Our society generally require us to make money, as money is the medium that allow us to trade for things we want in life.

    Taking a model into the explaination, I will reference my case to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

    The first level of needs is Physiological, which means survival essentials - shelters, food, clothings.

    Do we need money for all these items, what we deemed as for "survival?" Yes.

    As you can see, money, whether we like it or not, becomes a large pie in our needs. And the society is partially the cause of the social behaviour.

    Say for instance, I like arts and designs. But in where I am, there is no place for appreciation for arts. hence, even with the passion, the chances of me succeeding and actually "surviving" with it is slim (and by no means impossible).
  • Oct 3 2012: without money it's not possible to enjoy your live ! I think
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      Oct 4 2012: My question is not that if we dont have money we can live

      but the point is in while earning money we used to forgot that we have our own life also where we can share emotion, love, care many more thing which helps us to live our life happily but the people become a machine which can generate money and nothing else.
    • Oct 4 2012: How do you know it?

      have you tried it already?

      Thanks
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        Oct 18 2012: yes i have seen in my society and different families which is near by our side ....
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    Oct 3 2012: It isn't typically one or the other.

    You are right that some people focus on earning money while ignoring other activities of great importance, just as other people focus too much on study, too much on eating, or too much on recreation.

    I see you are a computer engineering student. You could make a point, then, of trying to lead a balanced life that includes productive work, attention to your health and loved ones, continuing study, service, and adventures.

    If you love computer engineering and are able to get an interesting job in that field, you will find that your work is not just about earning money but offers its own non-monetary reward.

    Hopefully throughout your life you will find many ways of sharing what you are and what you have earned through your work.
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    Oct 2 2012: Yes please.
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    Oct 2 2012: Good things are only good when they are pursued without selfishness and pride. When good things are pursued by the wrong methods, or in the wrong ways, or too much, the individual pursuing the things becomes bad.

    We need money to buy a few neccessities and to afford a few luxuries. But our life is like a body with many parts. If we only focus on getting more money we could hurt people by cheating them, or hurt family members by not showing our care, or we could endanger our health by our obsessive thoughts of money.
    We are born into a family, and a community, we belong to a society, and a nation.
    We should give every aspect of life and living its due attention; and not just focus on a part at the expense of the other.
    Money can not buy love and happiness; and these two make living worthwhile.