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Love vs. Connecting

Love is exclusive. Try as one might, one cannot love everyone. "I love you, but not him," can be very painful. Love's circle is fairly small. Love has agendas.

Connecting has no agendas. Connecting is inclusive. One can connect with anyone on some level, if with just a smile, all the way to procreation. There are many levels from which to choose that bring contentment.

Rather than feeling guilty for not being able to Love Thy Neighbor As Thyself, connect to those around you, for a moment, for an hour, for your life.

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    Mar 23 2011: Connecting is attaching in some way point A to B. (to C, to D...)

    Loving is impossible to explain.

    In order to love, you must connect. One is inside other, though connecting doesn't mean there's love.


    And love is not that exclusive. Maybe you are thinking in terms of only sexual love in our monogamic society. But I absolutely love all sorts of things. I've even had that fuzzy feeling in my stomach (that can't be mistaken: it was the falling in love feeling) about my own life, when a new phase was taking place.


    Love is the answer.
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      Mar 23 2011: You say, "In order to love, you must connect. One is inside other, though connecting doesn't mean there's love."
      Absolutely correct. Love is exclusive. Connecting is inclusive.

      Now, tell me, do you 'Love Thy Neighbor', the one that roars in on a motorcycle at 3 in the morning; the one that cheats you; the one that kills your dog. 'Love Thy Neighbor' is a setup for failure. Can you connect with your neighbor on some level - yes. Can you move forward from there, more likely.

      Connecting (I wish there were a more beautiful word) is the basis upon which love can be at all.

      Connecting with your fellow human being is the answer.

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