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  • JEFF D.
  • Hollywood, FL
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are emotions a human weakness, or a strength when it comes to making a resolution or solving a problem?

i think its both a weakness and a strength when one is trying to find a resolution for some sort of situation. There are numerous cases when emotion is and isn't a weakness, or strength. knowing what type of feeling one should feel in order to be successful in a "once in lifetime situation' (such as a basketball championship, or a job interview) is GOLDEN knowledge, that many of us don't know. i would like to hear people's perspectives on what emotions are a weakness or strengths when trying to make a resolution.


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  • Sep 17 2012: I think emotions create our personality. Someone without emotions appears cold, dead-and someone with too much emotions appears weird, crazy.

    But, emotions do not tell about personal talents. There are many great artists who fear going on stage, if they would trust in their emotion, they probably would not enter the stage.

    So i guess, a key element is not to control emotions, but to put them aside in certain situations. Brains do not multitask, they complete one task at one time, followed by another. Who is stuck in solving his emotional conflicts, will not be able to act out his talents.

    As you just can do one thing at one time, it might help to get back to the stage example. Once you notice you are feared going on a stage you gonna have two options: 1) Spent attention to that fear, 2) go on stage.

    Both can be the right decision, but whatever your decision is, you should focus only on your choice. When you take number 2 and go on stage, than you need to concentrate on that only. If you switch between being on stage and thinking about how feared you are, you will not suceed in whatever.

    When you choose 1 and drift away in thoughts where you wished you were on a stage, you will not be able to get behind your fears.

    So, i think the key element in sucess is to focus on what you are doing, whatever you are doing. Not to mix everything up or see a connection where no connection is.
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      Sep 17 2012: the practice of going on stage full of emotion may be considered mastery of self. allowing ones self to feel the emotions of the crowd and to resonate with empathy therefore compounding intuitive logic with compassion.

      (waited my whole life to write that, thanks!)
      • Sep 17 2012: even if the crow hates you?. (lets say an important UFC fight)
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          Sep 17 2012: Especially if the crowd hates you, your life is on the line. Your emotion exists in the nature of survival. You will either fight with every ounce of passion and skill or you will not and you may die either way.
      • Sep 17 2012: nice!
    • Sep 17 2012: VERY HELPFUL. i haven't taught about putting the emotions that hold you back 'aside'. sounds like a realistic way of overcoming fear, of something in order to succeed at something.
      it may be possible for a person to practice putting fear 'aside' , for when the job interview comes, or game time comes, the person would be able to put all worries aside, and perform at the highest level possible.
      if the key element is really focus.
      then i guess emotions, ---can be more of weakness, than a strength when it comes to performing and find a resolution under pressure.
      reminds me of the military.
      however i cant stop thinking of times when i, performed above and beyond of what i new i could do (in sports, physical activities) under a lot pressure, because i was felt so humble, and wanted to make a statement. (sort of like ROCKY)
      I'm kind of like the good artist who fears to go on stage. right now "Focus" seems to be the answer, feeling 'humble' also seems like it could help (remembering my initial purpose). so IT seems that anything that distracts you from fear/worries or sadness etc, can help one performed at their peak level, or find a good resolution under pressure. the "humble" part--- also reminds me of the military.
      • Sep 17 2012: I think that is why things like meditation and autogenic training show effects, both train to focus on things. That is why they show effects later on in other aspects of life, not because of the calming effect while you do that, but because you train to focus and this helps you in daily situations.

        I think that can be done with many things, every one should find something he or she likes and do this some times a week, and when you do this, you should not be interrupted, nor interrupt yourself. Same like when soldiers train to shoot, when they begin, they do only that, nothing else. Things like shooting in stress scenarios come later, when the ability to focus on a shot is established. Again the same learning structure.

        Also in sports, athletes learn to focus on a special thing, that is why some players with less good technique/talent can win against opponents who have more talent, once these lose focus. That happens often when one team makes a goal or point, and the other team loses focus and gets emotional. Whilst teams who need the next point to survive the game also focus, but use their emotions to clear their minds.

        So it is not that much about distraction or denying emotions, but to learn about own weaknesses and the personal emotional character and include this in the personal ways to interact in situations.

        In job interviews people focus often on what they want to appear like, not on what talents they have. But the interviewer sees so many people, he will look through anyways. So you might make a point if you show that you have stress, but that you can focus on the interview whilst stressed. That is more usefull for a job than just looking good when feeling good...

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