- Thomas Hawkins
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When does a conversation become worth while?
I want to know when a conversation is worth while? Is every conversation worth having? Are we just venting or gaining something? Perhaps a little of both, but are they both just as important?
Closing Statement from Thomas Hawkins
It seems for the most part that the majority of people determine the worth of a conversation by satisfying selfish and/or mutual group needs. A follow up question would be, do we think about satisfying these needs before entering a conversation? I don’t think that we do on a social playing field, gossip, etc; therefore, it is fair to say that for the majority not all conversations are worth having. Worth while conversations are those where we are able satisfy/solve our needs/questions. Therefore, this must require some premeditative thought, to an extent, depending on severity and consciousness of the individual’s needs and desires of the future conversation.
Although, I’d like to propose and entertain the idea that "all" conversations are worth while regardless of what novel you have written in your conversational speech. The answer lies in the opportunity. This latest conversational masterpiece and/or self-published disaster came into existence through an opportunity to have a conversation. Rather than looking at the end product, maybe we should think about the worth in the opportunity of invention and discovery. I am not denying that some conversations are more worth while than others, some are mundane and draining, good and bad, but I’d like to throw a stick in the spokes and stop the bike of “reward thinking”. It is worth while to debate, question and be curious toward even the most “unworthy” topics of choice. We may not even satisfy our own needs, but be there for another to talk with. A shoulder to cry on, if you will.
Is it possible to find reward without having won a race? Yes...
ps. Just a little note of thanks. Thank you for all your comments, really interesting points of view. I also must say sorry for being on the "down low" as of late. Busy days. All the best
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Robert Winner 50+
A conversation becomes woth while when a interest is generated and dialog is generated. I find some of the topics on TED very interesting and I learn a lot about some of the sciences talked about here. However, as I am very uninformed the expert must continually go back and explain why there is a problem or how we arrived here. This is a one sided conversation and most are quite polite but they must be bored to tears, a really good teacher, or on a ego trip and enjoy showing off.
I likie TED because we all give and take and at the end of the day we have both listened and evaluated new ideas and concepts or at least approaches to a issue. That means that we have truely met the TED motto of an idea worth spreading.
Have a great day. Bob.
Thomas Hawkins
Picking conversations.
Without the obvious dark vs. light, nothing vs. everything, etc. How would you personally pick a conversation, Bob? I like this idea and I'd like to find out more.
Don Wesley 50+
The first bit of wisdom that jumps into minds is often, “to discover who you really are!”
The second imperative is to answer for yourself is the question "To be or not to be"
Get curious!
Aware of and caring about us All.
Don [From The Silent Generation - 1930's