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Thomas Hawkins

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When does a conversation become worth while?

I want to know when a conversation is worth while? Is every conversation worth having? Are we just venting or gaining something? Perhaps a little of both, but are they both just as important?


Closing Statement from Thomas Hawkins

It seems for the most part that the majority of people determine the worth of a conversation by satisfying selfish and/or mutual group needs. A follow up question would be, do we think about satisfying these needs before entering a conversation? I don’t think that we do on a social playing field, gossip, etc; therefore, it is fair to say that for the majority not all conversations are worth having. Worth while conversations are those where we are able satisfy/solve our needs/questions. Therefore, this must require some premeditative thought, to an extent, depending on severity and consciousness of the individual’s needs and desires of the future conversation.

Although, I’d like to propose and entertain the idea that "all" conversations are worth while regardless of what novel you have written in your conversational speech. The answer lies in the opportunity. This latest conversational masterpiece and/or self-published disaster came into existence through an opportunity to have a conversation. Rather than looking at the end product, maybe we should think about the worth in the opportunity of invention and discovery. I am not denying that some conversations are more worth while than others, some are mundane and draining, good and bad, but I’d like to throw a stick in the spokes and stop the bike of “reward thinking”. It is worth while to debate, question and be curious toward even the most “unworthy” topics of choice. We may not even satisfy our own needs, but be there for another to talk with. A shoulder to cry on, if you will.

Is it possible to find reward without having won a race? Yes...

ps. Just a little note of thanks. Thank you for all your comments, really interesting points of view. I also must say sorry for being on the "down low" as of late. Busy days. All the best

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    Sep 15 2012: maybe i should say something to you japanese! the diaoyu island belongs to china .nothing can change
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      Sep 15 2012: my apologises for being curt Chen, but perhaps japanese would be best... clearly you miss understood the content of the question. this is clearly an issue you feel strongly toward, but you are directing your efforts in the wrong direction....

      perhaps this conversation would be worth while elsewhere
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        Sep 15 2012: ok!i just want to say something about it. you know.these days between the two countries we have much unhappenese.everyday i hear from my classmate about event and many of them go to the street to have a demonstration.some even burnin the cars that made in japan!also many japanese shops closed.i am just confused.i am sorry !
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          Sep 15 2012: Ok Chen. thanks for explaining a little better.

          All I will say, however this debate should end between the two countries, try and keep an open mind to the fact that some people care, other people dont. The population of Japan is made up of individuals, just like anywhere else. I hope you can find dislike for the situation, rather than a nation

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