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WHY DO PEOPLE MARRY?
WHY DO PEOPLE MARRY?
I still wonder what drives us to take on this "never" ending commitment based on "lies" with the hope of living happy-ever-after fiction.
any experienced expert in this field?
what I think is this:
1. they both are sick and tired hanging on phones all day long and waiting for their date who arrive after being late al least 24 minutes or do
2. they both don't know what to wear for each date, so they keep buying tasteless and unfashionable clothes to impress their partner for a couple of hours and end up having more clothes than they could ever have.
3. they both are sick and tired finding themselves eating tasteless cheeseburgers 5 AM in the middle of the street.
Who's married here?
Any one else who wants to or tried to marry or have been married?
any opinion, thoughts?
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Wael Ghada
BTW .., it is not acceptable here to have a child without being married
Edwin Nazarian 10+
Thanks for you note
I know that it is different in every culture and every one does its traditional way. I know there are cultural limits...
so what you are saying is that sometimes we have to do certain things in our lives just because everyone around us do, is that correct? will that also be correct that we do not have freedom of choice to do what is right to us and not what everyone else is thinking?
I started the question with WHY ... because it provides an answers which in many cases based on people's belief system and reason.
WHY do I eat? because I am hungry, because I want to feed my body.
Why do I marry?
because I .....................................................
- want to have free and hygienic intercourse,
- am scared to be alone and die alone
- want to have children
these are examples of reasons.
because my partner is .....................................................
- the person I can live with.
This is what you believe your partner is
if the whole life is built around a single purpose, than there is no point living your live up to that.
One must have many purposes in life, we must have choices in live...
for one single thing? - I don't see the point!
Wael Ghada
Why is a powerful question, but at some point maybe i would ask "do you want to get married?"
i was actually answering the question "why do people marry?" , not the question "why do people choose/want to marry?", simply because a lot of them don't choose to marry "not to mention there choice of the other half =P"
i completely agree with you, one must have his own choices for his own reasons. following the main stream may be the easy thing to do but it is not always the right thing. in the same time i completely agree with finding ways to adapt with traditions and cultural characteristics of each society "sometimes playing around it" in order to bring evolution to this society
as for me ... i still have no personal experience in this matter. but i guess marriage would be the normal evolution of a deep truthful supportive relationship.
Edwin Nazarian 10+
but you GUESS .... indeed, you guess! because you are not sure, because you do not believe and that is the reason you guess.
in that sense I would "I guess a deep truthful supportive relationship doesn't require marriage" but here is how I am saying: "I am sure a deep truthful supportive relationship doesn't require marriage"
first one has to be truthful to themselves, and then to think about truthful relationship.
second truthful to ones needs and wants, belief
I don't have experience in this field either, I am just curious to know.
But I had experience in living with a partner (not exactly the same but close to what it is like)
Wael Ghada
but now "i guess" i understand your question a bit more so let me ask you kindly to define exactly what you mean by the word marriage.