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Are we less attractive than we think we are?

Studies have shown that we tend to see ourselves up to 10x more attractive than we actually do. Is that statement valid and if so, why? What makes our mind change the perception of ourselves when we look in the mirror? What does it accomplish? Do other people see us as we see our selves?



Closing Statement from Damla Williams

Judging from all of your wonderful answers, i've concluded that attractiveness is based on self-confidence and actuality. It's different based on different people. Thank you all for the wonderful contributions!

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  • Sep 15 2012: I'm willing to bet that the studies to which you are referring have been debunked as pseudoscience.
    Most people have a rather accurate assessment of how they look. Very rarely do you see an ugly person claiming they're beautiful and vice versa. Most peoples idea of whether they are attractive or not comes from the previous experiences interacting with the opposite sex. If a guy or girl gets positive attention from the opposite sex and told "you're hot" "you should be a model" they will generally regard themselves as attractive. People who don't get this type of feedback will more than likely feel that they are unattractive. It boils down to feedback from the opposite sex during formative years.
    • Sep 18 2012: I thought it was conclusive of pseudoscience too. Thanks, Jeff! You made some very valid points.

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