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How does arrogance compare with confidence?
Multiple question, question. =)
How would you define a person who is arrogant, then how would you define a confident person?
How can each hold their own positive and negative qualities?
Since arrogance is socially considered a bad trait; how would you humble a person/yourself if they/you are/were arrogant? Looking for "success" stories.
Not much to say, but just peaked my interest as I looked at some personality charts that passed my view online.
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Gerald O'brian 50+
Don Wesley 50+
Where are your eyes !
Don
Linda Taylor 50+
Colleen Steen 500+
While in some cultures, making eye contact may be a sign of confidence, it helps to be aware that it is not the same in all cultures.
Derek Young 30+
Thanks for the info though, I will remember to stare away from people in Egypt. =P
James Zhang 30+
So if I go to Egypt and some Egyptian chick will stare at me and smile and all, that would mean she got the hots for me?
Anyone got tips on how to engage in a staring contest with an Egyptian girl?
Colleen Steen 500+
You will NOT be ROFLaughing when one of those captivating Egyptian lasses catches your eye. That is arrogant! Or is it confident? You remember Cleopatra don't you??? Oh....I forgot for a minute.....she was not Egyptian. Well anyway.....behave yourself young man!!! ROFL:>)
James Zhang 30+
Derek Young 30+
Colleen Steen 500+
This is a response to your comment....."cats meow". Once I learned about the cultural difference, I was aware of sending an inappropriate message:>(
Have you seen this talk? I like it.....about differences in cultures and communications.
http://www.ted.com/talks/devdutt_pattanaik.html
What are you saying in the above comment? "too much eye contact....pathological liars".....what?
Derek Young 30+
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html
Enjoy.
Derek Young 30+
Colleen Steen 500+
I finally watched the Pamela Meyer talk which is interesting.....thanks:>) To use any one of the behaviors Pamela mentions, I believe is limiting. Here is the comment I left on her site.
"This is an interesting and informative talk. Pamela speaks about "clusters" of behaviors, which may indicate that a person is not telling the truth. I agree with her that lying is a "cooperative" act, and if one does not accept the information as truth, the lie does not work. If we simply notice one behavior, and name it "deceptive", we may actually be deceiving ourselves!
Pamela says..."if you don't want to be deceived, know what you're hungry for". Freud recognized that there is "much more to it than speech", and I'm sure many before him recognized this as well. Pamela mentions one's "attitude". I believe being aware of all the different behaviors, takes us back to awareness, mindfullness and "knowing thyself".
I'm surprised Pamela didn't mention anything about instinct or intuition because I believe this may be part of the foundation of knowing our "self", as well as understanding others. Pamela says..."lie spotters rely on human truth", and for me, "human truth" evolves from instinct, intuition and knowing our "self". "
Derek Young 30+
When you mention "behaviors" , do you mean the unconscious physical displays of lying or were you mentioning a different set of behaviors Pamela mentions, because the physical displays, in my perception, are not deliberate (usually) or lying itself is definitely very limiting.
Colleen Steen 500+
I refer to all the behaviors Pamela mentions...fake smile, too much eye contact, or no eye contact, curling of the lip, hunched shoulders, providing irrelevant information, body language, etc. etc. I think any of these behaviors may be deliberate or not....some people may be aware of what they are doing...some may be doing it unconsciously.
In a comment above, you write...
"... in most cases, people use too much eye contact for the lack of something and some may even be pathological liars. Depends on the situation. =) "
To judge a person to be a pathological liar, based on too much eye contact is a stretch, in my opinion. I also realize you said "depends on the situation". I think it also depends on what other messages we are getting from the person.
My point, is that it may be beneficial to observe ALL behaviors, rather than make a judgement based on one behavior.....make any sense?
In my perception and experience, we can "feel" something that is not truth when we are fully engaged in the interaction....genuinely listening, hearing, observing, and being open to all the messages....spoken and unspoken. We can "feel" when a person is consistant with communications, or not. We can "feel" confidence in a person, and we can "feel" arrogance, when/if our mind and heart are open to receiving information.
Another important statement Pamela makes is......"if you don't want to be deceived, know what you're hungry for".
People sometimes tell us what they think we want to hear....true or not....that's where it helps to "know" our "self" and be clear with ourselves, then we can be clear with our communications.
Derek Young 30+
I believe your comment is crystal clear now, thank you.
I now see the jump in logic about the eye contact turning into pathological liars. In my mind, I though that "depends on the situation" made everything make sense, but it is now evident that it wasn't translated onto my comment because rereading it I am thinking "omg, I wish I had someone proof read all my work before anyone else sees it". Haha!