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Feyisayo Anjorin

Freelance Director, Afro-Carribean Media Group

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How do we draw the line between embracing vulnerability and being careless?

Vulnerability could bring us pain and could be a source of great gain.
Rape statistics in South Africa reveals that most victims (mostly women) are raped by people that they know. Victims hardly expose the offenders; because they blame themselves for their woes, and because society hardly takes women seriously when they accuse men that have been seen with them at one time or the other.
After my college and varsity days in Johannesburg I visited my hometown (Akure, Nigeria) and initiated an event that is meant to educate youths and teenagers on issues of sexual health.
It is believed that if a girl visits a guy who is her friend or lover, she should expect sex (in fact, it is assumed that a girl visiting a guy is expecting sex at some point)
I had a hard time convincing some of the youths that when one person forces another to have sex with him or her, it is rape. And that familiarity or relationship does not change that fact.
Eventually, I worked with the team and directed a PSA “Rape”. Please watch in the link below
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SVZ-MtYCiHw&feature=plcp
I agree with Brene Brown; relationships are about trust and vulnerability, and life will be miserable if we are always suspicious, and permanently on guard against possible betrayal.
We can’t help but be vulnerable to family and friends and lovers. And we can’t help but trust some people if we hope to be happy.
But there is also great danger in vulnerability. Sometimes, evil comes in packages that convincingly seem good; and friends and family may hurt us in a way other people cant.
How do we draw the line between embracing vulnerability and being careless?

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  • Sep 27 2012: Vulnerability - Raising two animals as pets - one a dog and the other a lion. After several years of carefull training imparted to both the animals, try kicking the dog. Dog will take it playfully and wag its tail. But lion will pounce on you 'cause :) the king is in pain.

    Carelessness - Same two grownup pets - feeding time - :) Try hand feeding the dog. Even if you dodge a morsel, the friendly dog will wait till you drop the food to catch it. Try the same trick with a lion :), if you are lucky you could walk away with atleast one hand intact! :)

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