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As Marianne Williamson said:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God; your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone,
and as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others."

What is that stops us from being and doing what we really want that will help us to achieve what we want?

What is YOUR deepest fear? have you ever thought or wondered about your deepest fear?

  • Sep 6 2012: Hi all

    Please note that FEAR stand for False Evidence Appearing Real.
    but according to who it stand for this, I have no idea, but I believe it is true
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    Sep 7 2012: That under the wrong circumstances, I could be compelled to do something horrible. That, if given too much power, I, like everyone else, would abuse it. Also, that my country is going batshit crazy.
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      Sep 7 2012: yeah, that would be one of my fears too
    • Sep 7 2012: Hey David,

      Why is that so?

      is that because people can't control themselves or they always want to be controlled, so they wouldn't have given too much power, and wouldn't be able to abuse it?

      Please note that even Shakespeare knew that there is nothing right or wrong it is our mind gives the meaning.
      in other words, we label the situations and circumstances the way we thing it suit for the moment.

      What is wrong for one parson can be right for another. - this maybe right or wrong but at least I believe so.
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        Sep 7 2012: Mostly... the sex drive of an Apex predator. Most animals at the top of the food chain have more than one mate. I would like to have a stable and healthy sexual relationship, with one person for a long time, and the "opportunities", which would present themselves if I were rich and powerful, would make that much more difficult.

        I understand Shakespeares sentiment, but I think it is exactly what I am afraid of. Everyone in power thinks like that... No one in power believes in objective right and wrong, in fact they are all paying for indescriminate murder to occur overseas. The fact that George Bush hasn't commited suicide, shows that when given power, human beings lose all concept of morality. A human being with a moral code, could not live with himself after such attrocity.

        I think people are good... I think power is evil, and only evil human beings want it.
        • Sep 7 2012: Thanks David,

          It was well expressed.

          I only wanted to add. When we realise the power of Love is stronger than the love for power, we might be able to start to think for a better society.

          as William Ury stated in his TED talk, : "We take an innocent strangers and treat him as a terrorist instead of tourist"

          I think we do that out of FEAR. labelling them so because of what we have been told.
          these two words are with T, and they have a big difference.

          Recommend to check his talk!

          Thanks again
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    Sep 7 2012: I learned from sailing that with each storm that is greater than what you have endured before, your fear of the ocean decreases.

    My greatest night of fear was when standing guard in the Jungles of Vietnam during the Monsoon season. Alone, on a mountain side, being responsible for the lives of all my men who were asleep. The rain beat upon the leaves and mixed with the wind. For some reason it all hit me at once and I was seized by fear. I actually thought I heard an Enemy Tank coming thorough the Jungle in our direction. It took a while to reason there was no way a tank could be up here. The imaginings of tanks changed to enemy soldiers moving stealthily towards me. I don't think I slept at all that night. That was my first night of guarding our team, the first night I spent in the combat zone.

    I've never been seized by fear since. Even in battle, I was able to think, move and adjust my fire, etc.

    I guess the one thing I am afraid of is being seized by fear and unable to move. I've never experienced that feeling other than that one night.
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    Sep 7 2012: I used to fear thunderstorms. Then I went though one alone. I used to fear spiders, and my aunt taught me how to make them go away. I used to fear snakes, then I petted one. I used to fear death, then I almost died. I do not fear them any more.

    So what I learned is that experience conquers fear and I do not fear it anymore.
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      Sep 7 2012: Linda, your approach reminds me of Julien Smith, productivity blogger and best-selling author of The Flinch. He makes a habit of getting himself to do uncomfortable things as a way of accustoming himself to that experience for when it counts.
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        Sep 7 2012: I will have to look that author up. The secret is the joy and accomplishment when you conquer another fear;)
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          Sep 7 2012: For Julien it is more the matter of seeing that nothing bad actually happens.
    • Sep 7 2012: Linda,

      I think what you are sating are mostly like being scared of something of having phobia.

      my ex gf was phobic, she shouted her head off any time she saw an innocent spider.
      It didn't take me 10 minutes make her to see a spider walking on her arm. but it took me two days to persuade her that it is possible to be cured.

      Glad you overcome it.

      There is a good book called: Feel the Fear and do it anyway

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        Sep 8 2012: Well maybe. I kinda think fear of dying is not a phobia but maybe all fear is phobia. Haven't really been afraid of anything since almost dying...
  • Sep 8 2012: Insanity.

    If you become convinced that you are losing your sanity, you will give up everything to get it back, including your own family.
  • Sep 7 2012: My greatest fear is that global political power and economic control will rest in the hands of a few shallow businessmen.
    • Sep 7 2012: at least not on politicians...

      I will be happy if the business people run our countries economical system.

      B Gate in USA ( Microsoft)
      R Branson in UK ( Virgin Group owner)
      A Ortegas in Spain (ZARA shop owner)

      I think these people know the value and the power of finance, they get their knowledge through experience and not theory (which is not workable all the time)

      I think if Spanish National football team was governing this country Spanish would be the winners three times in row.
      • Sep 7 2012: Are you trying to quell my fears or put me over the edge? Ha ha ha
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    Sep 7 2012: Coach Carter ftw:

    "What is that stops us from being and doing what we really want that will helps us to achieve what we want?"

    I think we just want to fit into society. No one wants to be too different to the point of loneliness, it can drive anyone insane.
    • Sep 7 2012: Thanks James, I have seen the film, the quote comes from Marianne Williamson's Return to Love book.

      I think loneliness is one of the greatest fear of all that many can't overcome, That is one of the reasons that in North Europe the suicidal rate is very high compares to Southern Europe.
  • Sep 7 2012: I think the deepest fear most humans have is of the truth.
    The truth is the power of life itself.
    That power is truly frightening because the truth is that you can do anything you want to do.
    That power is very similar, if indeed it is not the same, as the fear one would feel if they could look behind the veil and see not who they really are, but what their heart really is. Maybe those two are the same. I don't know.

    It is still................................The Truth.
    But, at times, the Truth, can be so ruthless,
    At times, it appears Truthless.
    But, it is still the Truth.
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    Sep 7 2012: The most common fears are: of death, of pain, and the fear that our dreams may not come true despite our efforts.
    • Sep 7 2012: Hello Fayisayo

      Death is the only destination we all share...

      I just wonder having this in our mind why we would fear of making our dreams come true.

      like every one else I am going to die, (I don't know when) but I want to make the most of it while I am alive.
      I have no Fear of dying although been there almost - this making we fear of losing each moment of my heart beat.
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    Sep 7 2012: That my piece of shit car breaks down. Seriously. That's my deepest fear.
    • Sep 7 2012: Hi Gerald

      on a funny note

      Change your car or change your thinking about your car and keep the change!
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    Sep 7 2012: "Fear" is the deepest fear.
    • Sep 7 2012: We have nothing to fear but fear itself
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    Gail .

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    Sep 7 2012: I agree with David Hamilton. "that my country is going batshit crazy"
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    Sep 7 2012: Some of the biggest fears people have are fear of death, impairment, or pain for oneself or loved ones. Part of the fear for oneself may be connected to fear of then not being able to protect ones children or loved ones from danger.

    Beyond this, decades of research have shown that we exaggerate risks of things that have very low probability but high cost in the very rare cases when they happen, like plane crashes.

    Here is a TED talk which among other things puts forward probably the most common advice from productivity/creativity bloggers for overcoming exaggerated fears- ask yourself what really are the worst things that might happen. When we get explicit in this way, we often find that the downside risk is not as dramatically negative as we envision when we contemplated possible consequences only in a vague way.