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Jake Maddox

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Do you find it difficult to engage in intellectual conversations with people in general?

It happens to me all the time. My wife encourages me to have dinner with her friend and her friend's husband. "It's the opportunity to socialize and meet new interesting people!", she proclaims. And yet the same boring conversations unfold. The guy rambles on about how many yards this guy ran, and how many interceptions this guy threw, and did you see how many spiders that guy ate on Fear Factor, etc, etc. I ask something like, "Hey, did you see that they possibly discovered the Higgs Boson at the LHC?" And the guy looks at me like I'm from Mars, "The LH what?". Then my wife makes a comment like I'm a nerd then everyone laughs. I'm far from a social misfit or hobbit, I just prefer to discuss things that stimulate me intellectually. I hope I don't offend anyone for saying so, but most of the time I feel like I'm surrounded by people that are intellectually challenged, to put it kindly. And maybe that's just it, if you consider that the average intellectual quotient is around 100. They're easily entertained and amuzed to watch television shows cataloging the "real world" of college kids living in a house together, arguing over who got the most trashed the night before at the club.


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    Sep 14 2012: I tend to have difficulty with intellectual conversations only where heated topics are concerned. Although I have my own views, I work hard to empathize with the people I speak to. The problem comes when I attempt to keep the conversation centered on finding a truth and keeping emotions and egotism out of the picture. Not easy when you're conversing with someone hell bent on being angry about a political topic regardless of the logic.
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      Sep 15 2012: Hi Amy.....I agree.....
      It is never easy to converse with someone who is hell bent on anger, ego (a need to be right), or one who has his/her own agenda. For me, that is an important deciding factor regarding whether or not I want to continue any kind of discussion with a person.

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