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Jake Maddox

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Do you find it difficult to engage in intellectual conversations with people in general?

It happens to me all the time. My wife encourages me to have dinner with her friend and her friend's husband. "It's the opportunity to socialize and meet new interesting people!", she proclaims. And yet the same boring conversations unfold. The guy rambles on about how many yards this guy ran, and how many interceptions this guy threw, and did you see how many spiders that guy ate on Fear Factor, etc, etc. I ask something like, "Hey, did you see that they possibly discovered the Higgs Boson at the LHC?" And the guy looks at me like I'm from Mars, "The LH what?". Then my wife makes a comment like I'm a nerd then everyone laughs. I'm far from a social misfit or hobbit, I just prefer to discuss things that stimulate me intellectually. I hope I don't offend anyone for saying so, but most of the time I feel like I'm surrounded by people that are intellectually challenged, to put it kindly. And maybe that's just it, if you consider that the average intellectual quotient is around 100. They're easily entertained and amuzed to watch television shows cataloging the "real world" of college kids living in a house together, arguing over who got the most trashed the night before at the club.


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  • Gord G 50+

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    Sep 1 2012: Intellectual elitism is often a barrier to meaningful interaction. Yes, social platitudes and empty play by play regurgitation of statistics can feel like an insurmountable obstacle to engaging conversation, but IQ isn't the measure of our humanity. Dig a little deeper. Try a little harder. Beneath the safe topics, lies a human being. Don't dismiss them and drop back into the safety of your self assured belief they are less involved in the world around them.

    Everyone has encountered the verisimilitude of life. So rather than evaluate their ability to appreciate the nuance of quantum physics, perhaps it would be better to look for their emotional connection to the absurdity of happenstance. We all share a common confusion about the life we live. Some avoid it by memorizing batting averages, others by being able to explain weakly interacting elementary subatomic particles with half-integer spin.

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