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Jake Maddox

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Do you find it difficult to engage in intellectual conversations with people in general?

It happens to me all the time. My wife encourages me to have dinner with her friend and her friend's husband. "It's the opportunity to socialize and meet new interesting people!", she proclaims. And yet the same boring conversations unfold. The guy rambles on about how many yards this guy ran, and how many interceptions this guy threw, and did you see how many spiders that guy ate on Fear Factor, etc, etc. I ask something like, "Hey, did you see that they possibly discovered the Higgs Boson at the LHC?" And the guy looks at me like I'm from Mars, "The LH what?". Then my wife makes a comment like I'm a nerd then everyone laughs. I'm far from a social misfit or hobbit, I just prefer to discuss things that stimulate me intellectually. I hope I don't offend anyone for saying so, but most of the time I feel like I'm surrounded by people that are intellectually challenged, to put it kindly. And maybe that's just it, if you consider that the average intellectual quotient is around 100. They're easily entertained and amuzed to watch television shows cataloging the "real world" of college kids living in a house together, arguing over who got the most trashed the night before at the club.


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  • Aug 31 2012: Hello... It is dangerous to think that your ideas and passions are in some way superior to other people's passions. It's also a turnoff to the person across the table... You'll find more people who want to discuss entertainment and sports than sub-atomic particles... It's easy to insult others who don't share your interests; it's also easy to find things that you in common with others... Which would you rather do? The second we realize that we are all knowledgeable in different arenas and aspects of life is when we'll really begin to enjoy the variety and diversity of "intelligence". What is "intellectually stimulating" to one person, may be incredibly boring to another. There are many different types of intelligence, and just because you may not share a particular interest with someone, it is certain that this person does have knowledge about other topics/subjects that you don't. I think Sophia (below) has it right that if don't share a particular interest with one person or group, then it is easy to find other who do share your interests. But, although it's fun to talk about topics you know a lot about, how will we ever learn about new topics, passions, and experiences without listening to what other people enjoy?

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