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Jake Maddox

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Do you find it difficult to engage in intellectual conversations with people in general?

It happens to me all the time. My wife encourages me to have dinner with her friend and her friend's husband. "It's the opportunity to socialize and meet new interesting people!", she proclaims. And yet the same boring conversations unfold. The guy rambles on about how many yards this guy ran, and how many interceptions this guy threw, and did you see how many spiders that guy ate on Fear Factor, etc, etc. I ask something like, "Hey, did you see that they possibly discovered the Higgs Boson at the LHC?" And the guy looks at me like I'm from Mars, "The LH what?". Then my wife makes a comment like I'm a nerd then everyone laughs. I'm far from a social misfit or hobbit, I just prefer to discuss things that stimulate me intellectually. I hope I don't offend anyone for saying so, but most of the time I feel like I'm surrounded by people that are intellectually challenged, to put it kindly. And maybe that's just it, if you consider that the average intellectual quotient is around 100. They're easily entertained and amuzed to watch television shows cataloging the "real world" of college kids living in a house together, arguing over who got the most trashed the night before at the club.


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    Aug 31 2012: Yes Jake, I do.
    But a way around it is to meet a lot of people. I find, that I quickly get "attracted" to the intelligent people in a group. Most of my friends have an IQ above average.
    I don't choose them for that reason, but I do get better along with people, who share similar interests... and I am not interested in the reality shows. In groups where I don't choose the company myself, I do struggle to find topics.
    Having a child makes conversation easier, as many topics follow parenthood. Babies, schools, behaviour, prices on clothes, and so on.
    But I'm not good a small talk, and don't have enough popular knowledge to lead a conversation among strangers.

    Maybe that would be an idea to study popular topics? Social interactions are very important to all humans, and you can learn a lot from studying people.

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