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Jake Maddox

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Do you find it difficult to engage in intellectual conversations with people in general?

It happens to me all the time. My wife encourages me to have dinner with her friend and her friend's husband. "It's the opportunity to socialize and meet new interesting people!", she proclaims. And yet the same boring conversations unfold. The guy rambles on about how many yards this guy ran, and how many interceptions this guy threw, and did you see how many spiders that guy ate on Fear Factor, etc, etc. I ask something like, "Hey, did you see that they possibly discovered the Higgs Boson at the LHC?" And the guy looks at me like I'm from Mars, "The LH what?". Then my wife makes a comment like I'm a nerd then everyone laughs. I'm far from a social misfit or hobbit, I just prefer to discuss things that stimulate me intellectually. I hope I don't offend anyone for saying so, but most of the time I feel like I'm surrounded by people that are intellectually challenged, to put it kindly. And maybe that's just it, if you consider that the average intellectual quotient is around 100. They're easily entertained and amuzed to watch television shows cataloging the "real world" of college kids living in a house together, arguing over who got the most trashed the night before at the club.


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    Aug 30 2012: Time and place is important.

    For example, i have friends who drone on about intelectual matters when i bring up the smallest reference to such topics. For example, I may mention a physics joke, and then they would seek this opportunity to demonstrate their knowledge and understanding of uni based physics content. At these moments, i would resort to being like your friends, by expressing 'a umm, right..thats not normal,' face.

    Sometimes people avoid confrontation with intellectual conversation, because they're trying to covertly divert the fact that they have no clue about the subject, thus revealing their scientific ignorance. This for example is me!

    I think its best to bring such topics of discussion online, where people who are interesting in the subject can comment on the matter.

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