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Tread Lightly On Others Dreams; Especially Your Kids.

The Dreams of Others are given through words and the receiver should take care not to squash anothers Dreams; regardless of how ridiculous it is. I believe proper guidance is much needed in this chaotic span of time.

These trying times make or break a lot of hopes and dreams. The one person one would hope to have support is their immediate family, so support them and guide them. If the dream is far-fetched guide them to the farthest point logically possible, until they reach their own "ends".

Don't allow someone to take anothers dream and abuse that dream because dreams have enemies and that is by the dreamless and souless people, though I say to try to guide these empty individuals' to a higher point as well, if possible.

Let's attempt to switch between spot light thinking into lantern thinking, as Alison Gopnik has stated. I think that this will help a lot in making a dream into reality. It can also open up your mind to the new possibilities.

See everyone around you as your child with potential to do great things; be the light at the end of anothers dream filled tunnel.

Those who kills dreams has shot their and their childrens feet.

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    Aug 25 2012: 'Let's try teaching unborn children in the womb skills! =P'

    Please don't. Leave them in peace. Don't even play Mozart to them intentionally in hope to smarten up the offspring. The best for the unborn child is a mother in harmony. That's all what's needed.

    It is an interesting concept and I heard it had factual positive affect on the child?

    It worked out fine for my brother and me, as both of us became as imperfect as all of us... :o)
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    Aug 23 2012: We should tread lightly on our own dreams. Until we learn how to love ourselves, we cannot love another. Until we respect our own dreams, we cannot respect the dreams of others. So the cure begins with the self.
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    Aug 24 2012: Since certain TV shows became quite popular some while ago, now almost all kids dreams form arround in becoming a super-star / pop-star / fashion-model or something alike...

    So how do you avoid stepping on those dreams if your child consequently devalues any further need for a broader education?

    In my opinion, to make a personal dream become true you must be willing to get through boot camp!

    Children should be guided in learning how to fail and how to get up again. This needs support, care and love so that they can grow stronger in themselves to find their own way one day.

    My dreams about pirate captains, astronauts and X-Wing fighter pilots had been friendly noticed by my parents, yet that was about it. And as long as I did not focus to much on it, and neglect my other 'duties', I could wish to become what ever I choose to. At times this changed even at a daily basis ... :o)
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      Aug 24 2012: Let's try teaching unborn children in the womb skills! =P

      It is an interesting concept and I heard it had factual positive affect on the child?
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        Aug 25 2012: 'Let's try teaching unborn children in the womb skills! =P'

        Please don't. Leave them in peace. Don't even play Mozart to them intentionally in hope to smarten up the offspring. The best for the unborn child is a mother in harmony. That's all what's needed.

        It is an interesting concept and I heard it had factual positive affect on the child?

        It worked out fine for my brother and me, as both of us became as imperfect as all of us... :o)
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    Aug 23 2012: I would like to empower the kids in this beautiful dream and say: Especially your parents.
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      Aug 24 2012: If possible yes, but to a certain extent. Like when your child is way over 18 and the parents dictate what type of life and job their kids should be pursuing, then that can become detrimental, if the child wants to follow their parents dreams. Some have argued that their offsprings are carbon copies of their parents, but the world would never have changed if that was the case, though if the parents dreams is to have their children be happy and live a stable life, then yes I would suggest following that part of their dream. =)
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        Aug 24 2012: Derek, I always enjoy my interactions with you and your thought brought this interesting video on that topic to mind:
        http://www.ted.com/talks/steven_pinker_chalks_it_up_to_the_blank_slate.html

        I was also considering a circumstance from my own life. My youngest is now 21 and I did not date for 2 years after her dad left. She and her brothers decided that was unhealthy and they had their own ideas of what my life should be like. Some parents have trouble realizing kids have grown up and in finding their own lives again. Some kids have trouble seeing their parents as adults in their own right.
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          Sep 2 2012: Mr. Pinker is always fascinating. Watching this ted talk again, is still as fascinating as it was the first time I watched it. Thank you for adding flavor to my intellectual palette for the day Debra. Sorry for a most late reply, been busy. =)
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    Aug 23 2012: Is there any counter-argument?
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      Aug 24 2012: ......Well some people don't find reason in encouraging someone to do something too out of their socio-economical backgrounds, and that type of thinking is detrimental. One would need a specific dream to t counter, but easier said than done I feel. If everyone and their babies knew about ted.com, then they may share some other views. Sadly, that isn't the case. Though everyone should keep an open mind and spread that way of thinking, and I try to start local. I guess it is so local that it is in the confort of my own room. =P
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        Aug 24 2012: My experience with students and parents is that parents encourage students to "aim high" in the sense of pursuing challenging careers that require serious education. They don't as reliably encourage ambitions like being on reality TV or in a rock band.

        In my experience it takes a little nudging to get kids to think in terms of keeping their options open by investing in a versatile foundation of skills. It takes maturity to understand the value of that.
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          Aug 24 2012: From a non-parental view people may skew their advice to others. That is where someone mature can still be socially obligated to support their friend being something ambitious and I think it is plausible, but always suggest to those friends to have backup plans or several.

          I think parents from underdeveloped countries probably want the best for their children as well, but I the backdrop of their society would really set up the childs choices, like if you were a female child in a middle eastern country, though what the child does is her own choice.