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Tony Dunne

Independent Business Owner, ACN Pacific,

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Why do people who have many advantages in life struggle with ongoing happiness whilst others with far less to be happy about are happier?

Its common for people with many advantages, physical, mental, environmental, family etc to be unhappy and depressed.

On the other hand people with the exact opposite are often far more happy in themselves, with their lives and about the future.

I personally know a blind person, one of my very best friends who lost his sight at age 16. Now at age 24 he is the happiest guy you would ever meet, very optimistic and positive and he believes his blindness is a gift that has helped him develop other parts of himself that he may never have even been aware of.

Clearly our view of the world has a profound impact on our outlook in life but thats the confusing part. If you have a great upbringing and many of the trappings of "a great life", then how do the people with those advantages of birth and environment continue to fall short in their overall happiness yet the people with severe obstacles are often the happiest.

We can assume that the things we all focus on and value the most are what gives us our sense of self. Is the answer as simple as the quality of our values and beliefs are the driving force behind our happiness?

Would people benefit from living as say a blind person for a 3 month term so as to develop other more enduring drivers to happiness?


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  • Aug 16 2012: Poor or average people go to work , pay their bills , then come home and watch TV. Rich people on the other hand , have a big pile of money that they need to take care of. You gotta watch the stock market , you gotta check your accounts , you gotta sell , you gotta buy , you gotta bribe , you gotta take care of your wife , you gotta take care of your mistress , you gotta take care of your relatives , you gotta take care of your employees , you gotta take care of your accountant always up to stealing your money , you gotta get over the guilt of having to much and seeing others have nothing , you gotta .....
    I hope this is not to shallow , i get like this sometimes.
    PS : i am bankrupt so I guess I'm not stressed

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