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Tony Dunne

Independent Business Owner, ACN Pacific,

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Why do people who have many advantages in life struggle with ongoing happiness whilst others with far less to be happy about are happier?

Its common for people with many advantages, physical, mental, environmental, family etc to be unhappy and depressed.

On the other hand people with the exact opposite are often far more happy in themselves, with their lives and about the future.

I personally know a blind person, one of my very best friends who lost his sight at age 16. Now at age 24 he is the happiest guy you would ever meet, very optimistic and positive and he believes his blindness is a gift that has helped him develop other parts of himself that he may never have even been aware of.

Clearly our view of the world has a profound impact on our outlook in life but thats the confusing part. If you have a great upbringing and many of the trappings of "a great life", then how do the people with those advantages of birth and environment continue to fall short in their overall happiness yet the people with severe obstacles are often the happiest.

We can assume that the things we all focus on and value the most are what gives us our sense of self. Is the answer as simple as the quality of our values and beliefs are the driving force behind our happiness?

Would people benefit from living as say a blind person for a 3 month term so as to develop other more enduring drivers to happiness?


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  • Aug 11 2012: This is a difficult question to answer, but in fact we are only desire.
    Every second we recieve a desire and once the desire is filled,the happiness we felt in the beginning ,slowly flows away and what is left is a feeling of emptyness.

    So you could say that people who are succesfull in life have a stronger desire and struggle with ungoing unhappiness because they already achieved mostly every goal they set for themselves.
    They discovered that once they reached the goal,the fullfilling and happiness they recieved in the beginning is gone, because the desire is filled.
    Its like when we are hungry,in the beginning the food taste delicious,after a while its so,so once we are fullfilled we dont want it anymore. So we recieve a fullfilling of the desire.
    But there is a possibility to change this feeling of emptyness ,and this we can achieve by fullfilling other peoples desires, so through this different mindset to recieve the happiness from fullfilling your desire into give the happiness in fullfilling the desire of someone else. A person dont feel this ongoing unhappiness because from the start it was not his or her intention to fullfill the own desire,but the desire of someone else. This creates a great connection among people and could eventually change the world.

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