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Tony Dunne

Independent Business Owner, ACN Pacific,

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Why do people who have many advantages in life struggle with ongoing happiness whilst others with far less to be happy about are happier?

Its common for people with many advantages, physical, mental, environmental, family etc to be unhappy and depressed.

On the other hand people with the exact opposite are often far more happy in themselves, with their lives and about the future.

I personally know a blind person, one of my very best friends who lost his sight at age 16. Now at age 24 he is the happiest guy you would ever meet, very optimistic and positive and he believes his blindness is a gift that has helped him develop other parts of himself that he may never have even been aware of.

Clearly our view of the world has a profound impact on our outlook in life but thats the confusing part. If you have a great upbringing and many of the trappings of "a great life", then how do the people with those advantages of birth and environment continue to fall short in their overall happiness yet the people with severe obstacles are often the happiest.

We can assume that the things we all focus on and value the most are what gives us our sense of self. Is the answer as simple as the quality of our values and beliefs are the driving force behind our happiness?

Would people benefit from living as say a blind person for a 3 month term so as to develop other more enduring drivers to happiness?


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    Aug 9 2012: HI Tony. I hope this is meaningful and on topic.
    I feel like I am living a quite different life since I had 2 clots hit my brainstem after a surgery. I had to learn to walk and talk again but it is more than that. I feel like my thought processes are similar but different. My old insecurities are gone, and I am different. The constant internal dialogue is missing, I am suddenly more certain where I had little certainty before and everything is more funny.
    I was a prettty smart and serious woman before. Now I am a smart and very humouous chick who can see the funny side of everything. I may be less to some people, maybe - not really sure now that I am more fully recovered but I am a sexier creature in my new body and I am more in everyway to myself.( although I do miss being as graceful as I was - I am somewhat clumbsy now - but that is still improving).
    I am definately a happier person and I do not know how that could make any sense.
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      Aug 9 2012: You've told the story many times before, but it's always still a good one to listen to :)
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      Aug 10 2012: Hi Debra

      Thats such a perfect answer, out of every adversity comes an equal or greater benefit. ONLY if we have the courage and grace to find the benefits, i wish you every happiness.

      Tony :)

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