Arthanari Chandrasekaran

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What adverse effects will the kids have, whose moms are working professionals?

There are kids in this world, some who have the luxury of troubling their mom at wish and some who have to schedule 15 minutes of story time with thei mom everyday.

What impact will the kids have if they don't have their moms at their disposal.

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    Aug 5 2012: To many factors. However, in the US we have, as a result of both professionals working, what is refered to as latch key kids. Some adjust, some are in jail, some could go either way. This has made Doctor, psych, and introduction of meds in kids a common occurance. Things that I use to get a spanking for now involve child warefare services, police, counsellors, and any number of for profit agencies all wanting a piece of the cake and never addressing the root problem.

    In poor families both parents have worked for years ... we address it now because it is a "problem" for high middle and upper class Americans.

    In short it could have grave impact or none at all. Depends on the support structure in place.

    All the best. Bob.
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    Aug 5 2012: Questions like this one are among the reasons why I don't see myself raising children anytime in the near future. I don't want to be confronted with these things, I don't want to have the impression I might be a bad mom, just because I would refuse to quit my job for my hypothetical children. In any case, how is it possible to generalize this sort of issue? Doesn't it depend on 1) the child itself and its character 2) both parents, not only the mother 3) the surrounding family and friends who can help?

    When I was little, I would spend lots of time with my great-grandmother, because my mom was working part-time. Did it harm me? Hell, no! On the contrary, it helped me to see the world from a different point of view with everything my great-grandmother told me. Moreover, it helped me to gain a tiny bit of independence, as in walking home alone all by myself, like a big girl.
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      Aug 6 2012: Thanks for the reply.

      Just my opinions about your thought

      1) the child itself and its character.
      irrespective of the child don't you think moms are necessary to be around and nurture them.
      2) both parents, not only the mother .
      father being with child is luxury, but mom being with child is basic necessity.
      3) the surrounding family and friends who can help.
      when you do not have time for your kid, how do you expect others to spend.

      I am always afraid of such a scenario where kids have their moms replaced by grand mothers as i have seen many kids in my neighborhood in similar scenario. Don't you think there will be a tremendous generation gap between a kid who spends his time form age 1 to 10 with his mom and a kid who spends 30 % with his mom and 70 % with grand parents

      The different point of view i visualize is a older perspective which might be different but may not be essentially current or have a future outlook.

      But ya not raising children at all definitely seems like a better option than to give birth and then look for some one else to raise our child.

      Being able to get things done independently might seem like a great achievement and it is... but accumulated value over the generations becomes lesser in that track.
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    Aug 4 2012: See the debate I started using a beehive analogy and Fibonacci's golden thread of numbers and what happens to men with no fathers.
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    Aug 4 2012: If the Moms would spare quality time for the children, or if their Dads would be around at the times when it is neccessary for a parent to be present, then there will be no adverse effect.

    But if both parents are too busy to give care and attention to their children; that is simply bad.
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    Aug 4 2012: Are there any research conducted in which the impact is studied on the kids with working moms and those kids with non working moms?

    If yes and if the results are adverse and considerable isn't it the government's job to ensure the future of this planet by introducing policies which prevents mothers with baby of less than 10 years old from being full time worker.

    Aren't we doing bad to the entire generation of the planet by not giving prime focus on the kids who are going to live in this planet after us/ without us. Isn't it our part to make them future proof?
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    Aug 4 2012: As @Fritzie was talking about the age, my intention of this conversation is to study the impact on the kids of age less than 10.
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    Aug 3 2012: There are plenty well adjusted adults around whose mothers worked. And there are some adults with problems they can trace back to their relationships with a mother who didn't work. There is no absolute law of nature which says that working mothers are detrimental to the development of a child. Equally, a child may be disadvantaged by the absence of access to a father. Again, this is not an absolute rule.
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      Aug 4 2012: "there are some adults with problems they can trace back to their relationships with a mother who didn't work."

      Anne, to clarify on the intention of this conversation, i am not looking into causes of adult with problems. But those kids under 10 who do not have their moms around when they need, what amount of adverse effects will it have on them in all aspects of relationship, education, brain power, thought process, religions.
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        Aug 6 2012: If the problems are transient rather something affecting the ongoing life of the child, does it matter? If the child grows up to be a balanced adult, was there a problem in the first place?

        Society has survived for millennia with working parents. Children were looked after by the extended family or wider social group. What's different now? Why do you think it is essential for a child to have a one-to-one dependency on the female parent? Does the male parent not have a role? Should a child not learn that its wishes will not always be indulged?

        This business of mothers being expected to be isolated at home looking after children is a relatively modern one. Prior to industrialisation the child had the opportunity to grow up as part of a larger community. What was wrong with that?
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    Aug 3 2012: What about adverse impact of professional fathers?
    What about the kids in the street who sledom sees their parents ?
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    Aug 3 2012: Kids need happy moms. If moms are happy to work, they should because otherwise, they become unhappy moms.
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    Aug 3 2012: The child's quality of life over her lifetime will depend in part on the array of experiences and meaningful relationships she has with people who care about her in early youth and over her lifetime. The people who will interact with her and help her see the wonders of the world around her will include her parents, with whatever richness of experience they bring to her, her siblings, her extended family, her teachers and other caring adults, and so forth.

    Kids need anchors in their lives but having a single anchor available every minute may not be necessary or ideal. And it will depend on the age of the child.