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Tatjana Jevdjic

Team Leader, PUC Heating Plant Belgrade


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Cinderella syndrome

I listened to a late Painter’s wife interview on You Tube.
They were young starters and lived in Paris. They were immigrants. They were poor.
So, he looked for a help from a fellow countryman, a famous artist, who came to France much earlier. But, he got no help. Why?
40 years later, after his death (in a hard way he became exceptional artist), in that interview his wife made the conclusion, that is very correct, and is profoundly placed in the hearts of certain people, who got some positions they did not really deserve.
It is about Cinderella syndrome. “Je voudrais passez lui”, or “I would skip him”, were the words of a famous painter, regarding other artists who came to him, in case that they were better then him. Otherwise he would help.
I think that this human characteristic is very common in every area of human activity.

Here, I am placing this question:
What is the best way for the creative people to surpass guys like that?

In every area these guys took positions. Even Tesla was tricked by Edison. He was smart man, but it happened to him.
What is your opinion? Did the famous painter actually help him?


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    Jul 31 2012: I think that life is a bit about understanding odds. Some people put out one resume and decide not to try again if they are not hired. In reality, I learned in HR courses that the ratio to finding a job is more like 100 resumes for one job. Astounding! So persistance pays off. With 50 nos before I would have probably given up but now I know that 99 mean almost nothing so................ I know that we have to keep on keeping on.
    This has to be true in many realms. Just because you encounter a jerk or a bully or a selfish person today does not mean you will not encounter someone wonderful tomorrow. Maybe we just have to use the same rule one hundred of them do not actually count - it is the good one - the helpful when needed one who counts!
    Ignore the jerks and never let them change you (but listen to the Simon Cowls when they tell you that you cannot sing unless you want to sing "shebangs, shebangs on youtube for the rest of your life"!
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      Aug 1 2012: I think that in the root of this is the same thing – more successful you are, you are going to be simpler and more modest person. Nice persons revitalize and change the world!
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        Aug 1 2012: I thank God for every nice person who ever impacted my life and we eventually realize that there were so many no matter what we have been through. Thank you!

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