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Tatjana Jevdjic

Team Leader, PUC Heating Plant Belgrade

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Cinderella syndrome

I listened to a late Painter’s wife interview on You Tube.
They were young starters and lived in Paris. They were immigrants. They were poor.
So, he looked for a help from a fellow countryman, a famous artist, who came to France much earlier. But, he got no help. Why?
40 years later, after his death (in a hard way he became exceptional artist), in that interview his wife made the conclusion, that is very correct, and is profoundly placed in the hearts of certain people, who got some positions they did not really deserve.
It is about Cinderella syndrome. “Je voudrais passez lui”, or “I would skip him”, were the words of a famous painter, regarding other artists who came to him, in case that they were better then him. Otherwise he would help.
I think that this human characteristic is very common in every area of human activity.

Here, I am placing this question:
What is the best way for the creative people to surpass guys like that?

In every area these guys took positions. Even Tesla was tricked by Edison. He was smart man, but it happened to him.
What is your opinion? Did the famous painter actually help him?

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    Jul 31 2012: Hello Tatjana,

    the Cinderella syndrome you described is, unfortunately, quite common in the professional world. There is the tendency in department manager to hire people from whom they think they can not become dangerous to them an their position.

    There is a rule that says: Only A people hire A+ people. Whereas B people only hire C people. C people only hire D people ... and so forth, untill the whole company slowly converges to an average of Z people.

    The proof of this rule is quite simple, or have you ever heard of a manager who stepped back freely from his or her position to give room for someone who is more talented to do the job? Usually this process is initiated, if at all, by higher ranked positions.

    The only way to break this cycle is a very strong character. And I think one can only find out if one owns this quality the moment one has to face onces master in a subordinate...
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      Aug 1 2012: In the fairytale, higher force solved the problem.
      In the real human world it would be time and persistence.
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        Aug 1 2012: I think so too. And many young talents who don't want to take the time and to be persistent leave the company to find another chance somewhere else.
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    Jul 31 2012: I think that life is a bit about understanding odds. Some people put out one resume and decide not to try again if they are not hired. In reality, I learned in HR courses that the ratio to finding a job is more like 100 resumes for one job. Astounding! So persistance pays off. With 50 nos before I would have probably given up but now I know that 99 mean almost nothing so................ I know that we have to keep on keeping on.
    This has to be true in many realms. Just because you encounter a jerk or a bully or a selfish person today does not mean you will not encounter someone wonderful tomorrow. Maybe we just have to use the same rule one hundred of them do not actually count - it is the good one - the helpful when needed one who counts!
    Ignore the jerks and never let them change you (but listen to the Simon Cowls when they tell you that you cannot sing unless you want to sing "shebangs, shebangs on youtube for the rest of your life"!
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      Aug 1 2012: I think that in the root of this is the same thing – more successful you are, you are going to be simpler and more modest person. Nice persons revitalize and change the world!
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        Aug 1 2012: I thank God for every nice person who ever impacted my life and we eventually realize that there were so many no matter what we have been through. Thank you!
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    Jul 31 2012: There are people who hoard what they know or deliberately block others' path into the sunlight. But there are plenty of others who feel a responsibility for bringing forward the next generation. These are the mentors a novice should seek and avoid those who have no time for him.

    I would have thought the main reasons some proficient or exceptional people might not help a novice would typically be 1) that the artist doesn't want to be distracted at all from his own work or 2) that the artist believes the person has little promise and therefore doesn't represent a good use of his time.

    Mihalyi Czikcentmihalyi, the Chicago psychology professor who wrote the book Flow, sought to interview several dozen highly creative people for a book on creativity. His research consisted of an extensive survey as well as interviews.

    One question he asked was what the secret was to each respondent's prolific creative achievement.

    One well known creative luminary replied that his secret was not agreeing to participate in research of this kind. For him it was an unnecessary diversion from acting on his passion through his own work.
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    Jul 31 2012: Keep being creative!
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    Jul 31 2012: Stay relentlessly curious and continue experimentation passionately.