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The ego creates suffering? Does suppression of the ego lead to " sustainable happiness?"Is love the suppression of ego?What does charity do?

If everyone worked together or independently to help people around them attain happiness, “sustainable happiness” could be afforded to everyone.Finding one’s calling in life is a hard one, especially because the odds are stacked up against you.There are always obligations, expectations, indoctrinations, reputations, and other things that just get in the way.Find your calling and all these things will suddenly fall on the back burner.Sure, the call of these memes will not disappear but they will not fight for control of your life, and hijack your happiness.Life, education, parenting, learning should be geared to finding what makes you who you are; rather than, taking who you are and finding how to be geared.The world needs a paradigm shift.It needs a shift from competition, status, and money to isolating and developing talents.Everyone has a talent or talents; and we have to learn how to bring those out.Allow that talent to flourish, remove the obstacles, remove the constraints of modern life and we have happiness.What if we took “the make a wish foundation” idea and took another step, maybe even a few extra steps than that, and started granting the wishes of the masses?We can make a doctor, a cancer researcher, a pro skate boarder, a dancer, a teacher, a microbiologist or, let a man run with the bulls, finance a lifesaving surgery.When the human mind is involved anything could be possible, anything could be conceived, and anything could be achieved. Let’s start granting wishes, answering prayers, make dreams a reality.Why not play God?When we start caring about each other, there is no limit that can stop us from doing great things; there is nothing that can stop 7 billion minds from reaching happiness.Let’s make happiness: sustainable, affordable, and ordinary.Happiness should not be for the few, misery should be.We can give more than just money or a check.We can give support, help, or any other service to make these dreams possible. Let’s make some happiness.


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  • Aug 3 2012: This Juxtaposition between self and self image is a construct of a person's environment. People are programmed with memes such as " I am not pretty enough" or " perfection is the goal of my life." These compete for the interests of a person. Society, environment, parenting : i.e. nurturing creates the self image of a person. A person can shatter a false self image by realizing the memes that rule his or her life. The reason why we are so easily programmed by deceptive memes is that we want the acceptance of others. It is a basic human need, to be cared about. Is a need of the ego. So we accept these deceptive memes , consciously or unconsciously, get subverted from our true passions and models of reality. When people help one another they receive a rush of positive emotion in the very same part of the brain that deals with drug addiction. In turn, all humans want connection with others. And the value of that connection defines a self image. If the value of that connection is powerful and positive, the needs of the ego will be fulfilled. Therefore, the only way to satisfy the ego is by destruction of the ego. People know this and so they get this powerful feeling when praying with people, being at a concert, a sporting event, a party , a fraternity, a club, charity or any other ego minimizing event. Love is where two individual people, two "I"s ,become a "we". It is the destruction of ego to satisfy the ego. That is why we strive for a cause, a religion, a purpose. We need something that diminishes the importance of self, and this creates happiness.

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