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The ego creates suffering? Does suppression of the ego lead to " sustainable happiness?"Is love the suppression of ego?What does charity do?

If everyone worked together or independently to help people around them attain happiness, “sustainable happiness” could be afforded to everyone.Finding one’s calling in life is a hard one, especially because the odds are stacked up against you.There are always obligations, expectations, indoctrinations, reputations, and other things that just get in the way.Find your calling and all these things will suddenly fall on the back burner.Sure, the call of these memes will not disappear but they will not fight for control of your life, and hijack your happiness.Life, education, parenting, learning should be geared to finding what makes you who you are; rather than, taking who you are and finding how to be geared.The world needs a paradigm shift.It needs a shift from competition, status, and money to isolating and developing talents.Everyone has a talent or talents; and we have to learn how to bring those out.Allow that talent to flourish, remove the obstacles, remove the constraints of modern life and we have happiness.What if we took “the make a wish foundation” idea and took another step, maybe even a few extra steps than that, and started granting the wishes of the masses?We can make a doctor, a cancer researcher, a pro skate boarder, a dancer, a teacher, a microbiologist or, let a man run with the bulls, finance a lifesaving surgery.When the human mind is involved anything could be possible, anything could be conceived, and anything could be achieved. Let’s start granting wishes, answering prayers, make dreams a reality.Why not play God?When we start caring about each other, there is no limit that can stop us from doing great things; there is nothing that can stop 7 billion minds from reaching happiness.Let’s make happiness: sustainable, affordable, and ordinary.Happiness should not be for the few, misery should be.We can give more than just money or a check.We can give support, help, or any other service to make these dreams possible. Let’s make some happiness.


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  • Teja Jo

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    Jul 31 2012: In my essay , I mentioned that there is no one way to happiness, nor is it the same for everyone. And I am one the same page as you on the fact that too much of anything is not a good thing. I know from experience. Maybe I didn't convey my message well enough. There's a reason why I called it sustainable happiness. I don't believe in utopia. I don't want a utopia. There's a reason why I tagged Buddhism in this conversation. The middle way makes sense to me. I try not stick to any idea , with too much conviction. Most of the time, I try to challenge what ever seems true. Where there is doubt; there is possibility. Where there is possibility, there is an open mind. So why is my concept called sustainable happiness? It because I feel that people will begin to make peace with themselves when they fiind what they are so good at, and makes them happy to do it. It is not always evident, what that talent is or where it will take you. Just because one found his or her talent, does not mean that they will not feel sadness or anger, or any other emotion. But, they will began to understand how to cope with it , without hurting themselves or others in pursuit of something else. I am not always a happy person. But, I know what makes me happy, what is passion. My passion to help others find others passions. And my idea is, if one another came together to help find the other's passions ; to support one another, when no one else will. When we stop thinking about the I, and the we, or he, or she , or they; I think any thing is possible. In turn , a man could find his sustainable happiness, by helping to find the sustainable happiness of another. Its a volunteer effort, just like the make a wish foundation. They make dreams come true for the sick and dieing. Why can't we make dreams come true for the healthy, and sick; the weak and the strong; the poor and the rick; the selfish and the selfless; the sad and the angry; the minority and the majority. The list goes on.
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      Aug 2 2012: It's remarkable your point of view. Indeed, you absolutely have the reason. When you give to others the chance to be happy, you get some (important) amount of happiness, becoming this a "virtuous circle" which could lead to much people to a placid and peaceful lifestyle. Volunteering is a great example of this. Anyway, these little efforts are not "happiness" by themselves, because when a volunteer do her great job doesn't mean she is 100% and always happy. But volunteering is the perfect example of what you defined as "sustainable happiness", which takes us up and up each and every day to a high-quality life. If you mean that "sustainable happiness" has something to do with "making dreams come true", I think this is a valid definition of this concept, and even its definition gives us a method to attain it. When people realize that they have a "reason for living", they can go on. The problem here is how long this "reason for living" can endure. You remark another keyword in saying something about this problem: PASSION. Again, it seems that we are returning to the flat reality: People misunderstand the word "passion", and even when this is not the case, people are not always ready for enduring on their purposes. This way, we show that not everyone could attain a "sustainable happiness". The keyword here is: WILLPOWER. I think that all these questions reduce to a simple fact: If you have to teach someone to be "sustainable happy", you must help her to build her own WILLPOWER. If this word doesn't exist inside a person's dictionary, we can claim that she will not even meet "sustainable happiness". Don't you agree with me?

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