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What life experience have you gained the most personal growth from?

I believe I am the co-creator of my life and everything which takes place. I have created for my highest good, in order to move me forward to connect to my true self at a deeper level. Thus, how I choose to perceive the event is immaterial. What is important to me, is what have I gained from the experience, so I do not enter the wheel of repetition(stuck).


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  • Jul 17 2012: I refused to comply with conscription by the South African Defence Force at the age of 18 at the beginning of 1979. I spent the next three years not only as pariah to friends and family, but also in and out of the SADF detention barracks. It was the most beneficial period of my life in that it so successfully allowed me to escape the perceptual cocoon my parents and their environment had woven me into.
    • Jul 17 2012: This is great, so it sounds like you learn to stand in your own power, is this true?
      • Jul 18 2012: Yes, but there's more too. Finding a moral standpoint is one thing, but living it is another. Flaws that remain unchallenged in a philosophical construct often fall apart in practice. I was on my own at the time because the people and organisations with similar ideas were all underground. Being the only one meant that I had to continuously question my own sanity.
        Not being able to go home meant that I had to find other places to live and hide. These brought me into contact with, and sometimes put me at the mercy of, new people and environments that I would never have come into contact with otherwise. I discovered that there were many different ways of understanding the world and that I could choose between them as I wished. Understanding that there is no one perfect way for anything, and that I could allow myself the space to understand as many of these ways as I allowed myself before choosing - that was the real power.
        Thank you for asking Teresa.
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          Jul 31 2012: Thank you Ian. Your bravery inspires me. I am speechless.

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