Dejay Davison

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Do 'Adults' even understand the impact of 'Facebook' on teen's minds?

I'm 17 years young, and a daily user of Facebook myself.
I wish to touch upon the worrying lack of care, or even knowledge to the effect this 'cyber world' is having on the minds of teens.
Is it because we don't speak up, or is it because we must learn for ourselves?
I have 'cyber popularity' i.e 50+ likes on any photo, or status I put up and 1000+ 'friends'. Facebook has created a 'delusional hierarchy' - I call it. We have sub-cionsiously created categories that we are placed into via shallow, deprecating opinions and dogma. No wonder depression is rising. Something I do not think adults have assimilated is the fact that this, 'cyber world' has pushed itself into the real world.
My 'cyber popularity' wasn't just on Facebook, it was in every mall, and party I attended. People thought they knew me, and pretended to be my friends. I do not write this to boast or brag, I write this to question, do adults really understand the crippling impact Social Networking sites are having on the minds of teens? It is installing judgement, categorization of humans based on interests and looks, depressing in their minds, but teenagers themselves have created this..
Is this 'overly simple' access to a huge number of minds and teenagers of similar age a good thing, or should we be worried for the future generations to come, are these installed judgements and created dogma of the teenager society going to linger in their minds and lives forever?
What can we do to stop this?
Do the creators care?
Or do we have to learn form ourselves?
If parents and adults are aware, why is there such a lack of action?
If 'don't go on Facebook' is all a parent or adult can say, does that not leave us helpless to the crippling effects, will you stand around and watch as it poisons their minds?

I write notes on my Facebook similar to this, more than 75 teenagers have agreed, and even known themselves of this growing effect, but what can we do?

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    Jul 12 2012: There's no such thing as an "Adult". Most people get about one year older than you, graduate secondary school, say "thank god, I'm out of there'... and almost literally, never learn anything again. You've met the people who will rule your country, and most of them aren't going to get any smarter. Facebook popularity is exactly like real popularity in High School, it's vapid, and temporary. It was that way for your parents.

    Having a 1000 friends on facebook, is having a thousand friends, in most functional ways. "Anyone hiring?" 997 of your friends got nothing for ya, but a couple might. It's better than having 5 close friends who happen not to be able to help you solve your problem. Also, facebook makes it so that as you graduate and move on to college, then a career, you can take the people you like with you, and always throw a fun party.

    If you're looking for deep meaningful relationships with people use the internet as a tool to bring them together. Adults are just as insane, ignorant, superficial, and vain as children... Most of them are now anyway. So they can't help you with that.

    In short, get used to it... Not a very cheery message I'll grant you, but it's pretty much the truth.
  • Jul 16 2012: let me ask u sth even if im only 13 i think ull think im ... crazy or sth
    what do u want to be when u grow up if u tell me the answer i can tell u the answer to the facebook thing
  • Jul 14 2012: I'm 40 and I'll admit I have completely missed the boat on the Facebook thing. I have no idea what the fuss is about. I imagine it's like all other things. It can help and It can hurt.
    Note: I have also never sent nor recieved a text on my phone :)
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      Jul 14 2012: Howdy Dan
      You are not alone in the boat leaving the 20th centruy. I have moved up to texting on my phone and in the past year I've got on this internet for the first time. Almost 50 myself
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    Jul 13 2012: Howdy Dejay
    I would like to start by saying that you don't have a 1000 friends you do however have a 1000 people on a list. I would also say if you have not deleated your facebook account then you really don't have a reason to complain. If you are unhappy about the effects then step away from it you apparently a wise enough to see the proplems then be strong enough to stop. Mr. Hamliton is pretty well on the path when he states that most pafents are justas deep in it as you youngins so they know. Now the choice is yours be one of the sheep or be someone that stands on her own with out the false friend and popularity.
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    Jul 13 2012: A lot of adults are performing the same cultural trends that you claim just teenagers are doing, and more. Gossip, drama, popculture, bullying, etc. It's ageless really,

    It's the culture in general of the nation that is the problem, not facebook, facebook just exaggerates the trends.
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    Jul 13 2012: On the long run 'adults' turn out to be right often. But the prove comes with age and time only... :o)

    What I can see so far is, that the world of teenagers today turned more digital than before. All up- and downsides of this period transferred as well and the only difference is the size of the 'stage' and its 'substance' to act on.

    One of my concerns is the inflationary use of the word 'friend', which gets diluted in its original meaning by those ridiculously high numbers. But also here it is just a matter of time and experience to find out about it, and so it was in the 'analog' world as well...
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    Jul 12 2012: As a teen I'm not exactly sure what you're on about, is it facebook addictions or what?
    And as to people who come up to you and "pretend" to know you, what's wrong with that! It's being social, maybe they actually want to get to know you. I've never heard anyone complain about meeting people in real life.
  • Jul 12 2012: Times have changed from this generation from last generation before us this generation is the most unsocial out side of their tech world there are vary few people that call each other or even talk to their parents that much. The reason why i could say that is because i come from a large family that is vary diverse in what they do and how they believe one side does not believe in tech use at all they are more into reading and playing out side bascue my uncle says to and that goes and that side of the family is vary open about everything with their kids. but on the other side is a completely different world where their is nothing but tech that they use all day and every day. and hardly have a communicational skills that i can pick up where it is a vary closed where they dont share anything . its is vary hard to tell witch way that i think that people are going to go.
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    Jul 12 2012: Could you clarify what you are arguing for here when you note lack of action? What sort of action would you want your parents to take?

    At this point large numbers of parents are on Facebook and familiar with it. You say telling you not to use Facebook leaves you "helpless to its crippling effects."

    Are you asking that parents should expect you to be on Facebook but warn you that your friends there are not necessarily friends and that what people like you for may be empty? It sounds like you already know this.

    Are you asking that parents fight for regulatory action to control what teens (or at least minor teens) can do on Facebook in the way of gathering friends or liking each other?

    Parents throughout history have worried about their kids' friends and the values of other kids at school and on TV.... Are you saying parents are neglecting the importance of conveying values that would prevent your using Facebook in an unhealthy way?