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In the pursuit of happiness, what are the key bullet points to take with me on my adventure

It sounds simple, but its a complex thing. Pursuit of happiness

  • Jul 16 2012: •Work hard. Provide a valuable service or product. That's good for self esteem.
    •Remember that struggle is like a golf game . . . never compete with any opponent, instead compete with your own game because your genetic code and your life experiences are unique compared to anyone else and that is the miracle you alone have to offer.
    •Don't compare apples to oranges . . . unless you are celebrating diversity.
    •Learn, then learn some more.
    •But for a blissful happiness, be actively and willingly grateful for everything you have.
    •Nurture something
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      Jul 22 2012: I loved this but would add: sitr in a large dolop of love and an open mind.
  • Jul 12 2012: A place is only as good as the people in it
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    Jul 12 2012: Looking down while comparing
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      Jul 13 2012: Man, Salim, as always, short, sweet and meaningful.
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        Jul 13 2012: As always you made me obliged and honored, Lady Debra .
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          Jul 13 2012: Gotta love a courtly man, and I do adore you Salim!
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    Jul 11 2012: Success and happiness are found on the journey, not the destination.
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    Gail .

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    Jul 16 2012: Know what and what you are. The discovery of THAT will be the adventure of a lifetime, and if you are paying attention, ever-so satisfying!!!!!

    HINT: You are not a body. Your body is your least part. You have powers that you have probably never heard of, and they are yours to use as soon as you are willing to use them. You never need fell fear or lack again.

    some people find some strange happiness in fear and lack, and if you are one of these, my way will not work.
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    Jul 12 2012: The best things in life are not things.
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    Jul 12 2012: Embrace the sad times as much as the happy times.

    There is no such thing as happiness on its own. Light needs the dark to give essential contrast. It makes it real, it make it stand out. We only see things clearly if there are opposing contrasts.

    Pursue the light, yes, but also learn to accept the dark.
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    Jul 12 2012: There was a new idea that came out recently about 2000 years ago called the Golden Rule, you might want to look into it.

    I might add that a key to happiness is to view things as they are not as they should be. Otherwise you are constantly irritated with the current situation.
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      Jul 13 2012: Are people with your convictions comfortable with signing the Charter of Compassion?. It is based on the Golden Rule.
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        Jul 13 2012: Although I have been accused many times I have yet to be convicted...

        I think the concept tends to get conflated with socialism. I think this kind of thinking has to be from the bottom up which is contrary to most socialism.

        She does make a great point about people mostly want to be right. I think once you get over the fixation on being right (if you can) you can start to look and learn.

        It is worthy of note that the corollary to the golden rule is to ask your self why am I mad at him/her, what have I done that is similar to what they are doing? or have I done to them?

        One other thing your best friend is you so treat yourself as you want to be treated as well. I know this terribly Randian but it works.
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          Jul 13 2012: How interesting! Do you believe that you want to be right?
          Who are you referring to when you speak of angry people?
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        Jul 13 2012: Yes Dr Smith, I have a terrible affliction with being right but the fact is I'm always right, but I also strive to be correct.

        I'm referring to me and this idear could potentially help another?

        I might add the most effective and objective way to practice the golden rule is the free market. In reality a business's purpose or goal is to serve the customer. People make the error in thinking a business's purpose is make money. NOT true the customer does not give a rat's ass if the business makes money or not. They care if their personal interests are served or not.

        I notice your effort to get what I'm saying before you react, this is good.
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          Jul 13 2012: Pat, I guess I did not make this clear but I never did earn a PhD (might still be a goal though- not sure). HEY! i LOVE IT An area where we agree. A business's purpose is still and always has been to serve the customer.

          "ask your self why am I mad at him/her, what have I done that is similar to what they are doing? or have I done to them?" Are you ready to answer your own questions.

          Pat: you may not be aware of this but I think it is dirty pool to make additions to answers after they have been responded to. It tend to make the dialogue partner look stupid as their answers seem to have missed the mark. It is just not something that I believe is fair. I am attaching what I refer to.

          "One other thing your best friend is you so treat yourself as you want to be treated as well. I know this terribly Randian but it works. " If you reallymust add something just place the word 'addition' in front of it, please.
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        Jul 13 2012: Objection duly noted.
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    Jul 11 2012: What an excellent conversation!

    Always keep your thoughts positive and your head high. In your pursuit of happiness you ill experience many ups and downs. The hardest thing will be rebounding from the downfalls. But if you keep drudging on no matter what, you will get there eventually.

    In addition if you keep your mind open and keep yourself flexible to change, you will find happiness much faster than you think.

    Best of luck to you!
    • Jul 11 2012: Thank you for your answer.
      What is your perspective on this then:
      "Should I set expectations and plan things. Or not?"
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        Jul 12 2012: It really depends on what you are doing. I would say that a certain amount of planning is neccessary, but be flexible enough to allow other events to come into your life.

        Expectations are a dangerous thing. It is okay to go into something with a rough idea, but I would be careful. What happens when you set expectations is you start believing that your expectations will come true. When they dont, even if it turns out to be way better than you expected, you will have, even if it is brief, a feeling of disappointment.
  • Jul 14 2012: Two things, which in my opinion should always go together:
    - treat others like you wish to be treated (as already mentioned earlier)
    - be your best friend/your own mom (the one you'd love to have, not necessarily the one you have)
    The combination of both allows to appreciate your achievements, however small they are, even if you did not meet your expectations.

    Ask me the question again in 10 years, I'll probably find something to add :-)
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    Jul 14 2012: I know this may sound odd, but if you give this gal a chance,she will help. Her name is Joyce Meyer and can be seen at her website: joycemeyer.org and enjoy the videos of this remarkable woman.
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    Jul 13 2012: If you love it or her, cherish it.
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    Jul 13 2012: Don't pursue it don't look for it and it will find you.