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What advice would you give a younger you?

Consider, for a second, your life. Consider all of the life lessons you've learned and the experiences you've undergone during your brief existence here. Consider the trials and tribulations you've faced and the lessons you've learned "the hard way." If you could write a letter to you, at any point in your life, and give yourself as much advice as you saw fit, what would you say? Would you remind yourself that life goes on? Would you promise that things always get better no matter how terrible they might seem? Would you take the philosophy of Frank Sinatra and explain to your younger self that "That's Life"? Would you plead with yourself to turn to God sooner? Would you warn yourself to stay away from soda, salt, and red meat?

Of course, this arouses the argument of "I like my life the way it is now, and everything that happened happened for a reason thus I would not change anything." If that is your stance, then I pose another question: What advice would you give to a younger being? Age, culture, ethnic background, and special circumstances are arbitrary, irrelevant, and up to you.

This is your chance, here and now, to give any and all of the advice you've found so essential to happiness and well being, to a youth that might sincerely need it.

P.S. I created a duplicate post of this question to allow those who have not found this page yet to continue to engage in an exercise that leads them to inspire others, motivate themselves, and allow those who really need your advice to easily receive it.

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  • Jul 29 2012: Perhaps I would say a lot, forgetting the most important but then "the most important" is quite personal and that's how it should be so it is gonna be ok even like this, even more - because of this. What I would have liked to have known back then is that there is no shame to take yourself as a beginner but most probably back then I would not be able to see it the way I do now. So the next is that every time comes with its reasons, images, lessons, still you can always approach any matter in a better way, you can always change and not be afraid to explore no matter the age but only when you know what you are doing and really taking the responsibility - in the meaning of being able to explain to yourself and, if necessary, to any person involved in the situation, what you did and why you did it, simply being consious and present, without overdoze of fooling around. Sure, be reckless, passionate, totally crazy but just for the sake of joy. Listen to music, listen to yourself (go for a ride or a walk in a place you think you know so very well and try to see it as if for the first time), look at people and their reactions (without your interest standing in their way), consider your reactions as if from a distance, travel and while you travel talk with the people you meet, not push it, if the conversation happens, most of the times it's in a very natural and, risking to sound pathetic, nourishing way, just because usually it gives some food for thought, at least gets you out of your nest and you start thinking about other matter, different from yours and still they lead you to your matters hopefully in a better way. The distance sometimes can be a great chance to have a closer view. Read whatever you love, find new authors, share what you have read, discuss or simply tell the story, share your passion, do the things you love whenever you can but again don't rush it, it works with your presence (not with your intervention). Don't be afraid to risk. Love, love, love.

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