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can we reform the discussion surrounding gender inequality?

As of late, the gender discussion seems to dominate the mainstream discussion on social justice. The alarming trend that I have noticed is that it has become a real battle of the sexes where one side accuses the other of causing its demise, which means any progress for one gender is seen as a loss for the other. I am proposing that we start to reframe the gender debate in a way where we can honestly address issues faced by men without saying "men just don't have as bad", in a way where we can address female issues without saying "women complain too much, get over it.
We must remember that progress in gender justice is (or should be) a benefit for all not a sum zero battle. Often, we get caught up if tallying up a score on who has it worse, rather than finding ways to address issues for both sides, simultaneously.
What will you tell your sons or your daughters when they come to you for advice?


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  • Jul 5 2012: Though I haven't read every comment there's posted here, and I just scanned through the topic, from what the comments I've seen I can already tell where this is heading. Though this is supposed to be about 'gender inequality' and how we should stop hurting each other, because its rather pointless to even compare men to women, both are very different. What I see here is people talking about how bad women have it, its the same topic every single time. Once the topic of gender inequality is brought up, we cant stop talking about how badly women are treated.

    Yes in the past they weren't treated unfairly, and yes you still have it bad in a way. But even so, since after all this is the topic about gender inequality, why don't we talk about men as well? Men have it pretty bad too, specially nowadays. You see women being pitied when something bad happens, such as Debra, in one of her comments she pointed out how badly she was treated at work, yet no man here, at least not from what I've read...has said anything about how unfairly they are also treated. Without notice, the world we live in has...in a way, become feminist. Just two weeks ago, I was siting at a bar looking around just to find myself looking at very nice woman, she was beautiful. Without even noticing I apparently stared for a slight second or two, well it was enough for her to meet eye contact with me. And upon us making eye contact she immediately chuckled and called me a 'pervert' as if I was staring at her breasts or anywhere that might lead her to say this. But in fact...I was merely looking at her face. What do you make of that? '' Men are beasts who prey of women!'' men also have stereotypes and have it bad. But even so...we hardly ever talk about any of it. Women in the past and even now have it tough, but in a way, its their fault too. Just like its mens fault that we are seen as rapists if we walk on the streets at night alone.Both genders/sex's have faults in how they are currently being treated.
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      Aja B. 20+

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      Jul 5 2012: I've noticed that, whenever large groups of people try to correct something they agree is wrong, they have a tendency to over-correct. I think you're right that we're starting to see something of an over-correction to the mistreatment of women in places... which isn't to say that women aren't still being mistreated, of course they still are, but that the growing tendency to treat all men as abusers of women and children is ridiculous and unjust. We can, as a society, treat women well without tearing men down.... but I worry that it may take some time to find the right balance.
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      Jul 5 2012: Michel, if you read the short paragraph introducing this conversation, you will notice that I did point out there are issues that men are facing which don't get enough spotlight, and this is why I welcome people to engage in a conversation where these issues can be addressed. I am glad you are remind us to give attention to the other side too

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