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If someone you knew was a pathological truth-teller; how would you react to this person?

Most of you have probably hear the term "pathological liar", meaning they lie all the time, from dusk til dawn. We all lie though, but too much lies can ruin any relationship. If there was no lies, but pure truth 24/7 360days a year for the rest of that persons' life, how would you react to this person?

Some have argued with me that we need lies to live for example, 'your best friends mother on her death bed asks you where her son is, and you couldn't tell her that her son has just died on an air plane that blew up just before landing, so you lie and tell her that his flight was cancelled and he says he loves you very much and you fill in the blanks with fond memories....now let's change that situation a bit....

Your best friend mother on her death bed asks for her son, but you know he just died on that exploding plane, so you give her the low down and tell her that his flight didn't make it here because his plane blew up, though he really loves you and he told me this before we got off the phone.

Two scenarios, both end the same, she passes away, but the details may be different depending on the individual.

A pathological truth-teller doesn't blurt things out though, like if they see something/someone they hate, they won't go I hate that thing over there and then proceed to tell the thing or person they hate it/them, though if they were asked to give an opinion they would tell the truth.

If you asked this person a question, they would answer you extremely truthfully and at times it might even seem offensive. For instance, you ask them "do I look good in this" and the pathological truth-teller says "it looks hideous on you, but you already tried all the clothes in this store and they all don't look good on you, so let's go to a store with a different style?".

How would you react to this person?

Update: This is a scenario of a world with pathological truth tellers.



Closing Statement from Dyed All Hues

All I could think of is "thank you for participating and hope the remnance of this discussion will shed light upon your life", though this topic is far from reaching any type of consensus; we can all strive to respect one another and live earnestly and honestly.

May you take positive leaps and bounds in your life.

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    Jul 1 2012: I think the point here is not to find whether the truth is universal or different among the people but to talk about how we react to the people who tells the truth(opposite word to lie in this context) even though the situation is not appropriate for the truth. In my case, If I meet the person who pathologically lie without caring other people's feeling or being aware of the atmosphere in the situation where the person belong, I will think about what makes him or her behave that way. Maybe it might be due to the dysfunction in some part of the brain if the word "pathological" is concerned, but repeating in telling the truth does not neccessarily mean it is "pathological". I am not sure if the question here concens about only the pathological truth teller, but if not, I think I will try to understand that person as much as I can rather than reacting passively to what he or she behaved. In other words, I will focus on his or her bahavior rather than focusing on mine.
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      Jul 1 2012: That is the ultimate form of empathy. I think we could learn a lot and help many people if we try understand the other persons behaviours and personality. Thank you for your thoughts JaeHun! =)
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      Jul 3 2012: JaeHun, Thank you for this comment. I agree. Did you know that damage to the front of your head ([pefrontal lobes where thought and emotion are integrated) might be involved with lying?

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