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Dyed All Hues

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If someone you knew was a pathological truth-teller; how would you react to this person?

Most of you have probably hear the term "pathological liar", meaning they lie all the time, from dusk til dawn. We all lie though, but too much lies can ruin any relationship. If there was no lies, but pure truth 24/7 360days a year for the rest of that persons' life, how would you react to this person?

Some have argued with me that we need lies to live for example, 'your best friends mother on her death bed asks you where her son is, and you couldn't tell her that her son has just died on an air plane that blew up just before landing, so you lie and tell her that his flight was cancelled and he says he loves you very much and you fill in the blanks with fond memories....now let's change that situation a bit....

Your best friend mother on her death bed asks for her son, but you know he just died on that exploding plane, so you give her the low down and tell her that his flight didn't make it here because his plane blew up, though he really loves you and he told me this before we got off the phone.

Two scenarios, both end the same, she passes away, but the details may be different depending on the individual.

A pathological truth-teller doesn't blurt things out though, like if they see something/someone they hate, they won't go I hate that thing over there and then proceed to tell the thing or person they hate it/them, though if they were asked to give an opinion they would tell the truth.

If you asked this person a question, they would answer you extremely truthfully and at times it might even seem offensive. For instance, you ask them "do I look good in this" and the pathological truth-teller says "it looks hideous on you, but you already tried all the clothes in this store and they all don't look good on you, so let's go to a store with a different style?".

How would you react to this person?

Update: This is a scenario of a world with pathological truth tellers.



Closing Statement from Dyed All Hues

All I could think of is "thank you for participating and hope the remnance of this discussion will shed light upon your life", though this topic is far from reaching any type of consensus; we can all strive to respect one another and live earnestly and honestly.

May you take positive leaps and bounds in your life.

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  • Jun 29 2012: Maybe the ones that have lost trust in others had abusive parents and the child had to lie to protect itself from mom and dad. When a child cannot trust their caregivers that pretty much sets up a child to be mistrustful.

    And you are right that if said person has a personal history of lying they are more likely to suspect the same in other people. Yes, it would take some special effort for that person to begin healing. A good therapist is invaluable and can point out the errors in a persons critical thinking skills. A highly skilled therapist. I do find though that most people only tell the truth when it does not hurt them. If lying is expedient, most (not all) people will indulge. That is why any business deal must be on paper.

    Hey, oddly enough I listened to a podcast on lying on How Stuff Works. Listen if you are interested.
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      Jun 29 2012: This is an interesting perspective and something i have been wondering about because I recently had to terminate a relationship which was important to me because the lies about unimportant stuff distorted my world.
      • Jun 29 2012: Good thing you terminated the relationship Debra. There are some people that just lie. Pathological liars. I have found that people that lie just for the heck of it are not to be trusted. Most of these people are quite gregarious - entertaining folks. Many of them will use you anyway they can and it will be a one way street. They will also steal from you if they get the chance. They talk about what they are going to do for you, but they never quite get around to it. They will even tell lies about you to other people if it serves their purpose. Next to murder perhaps pathological lying comes next on the list of misdeeds.

        Your insight about "unimportant stuff distorted my world" was very telling. Pathological liars are known for creating their own reality.
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          Jun 29 2012: Thanks for your helpfulness,Sandra.
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          Jun 30 2012: In addition to "pathological liars...create their own reality", they probably have no room for others in their reality but themselves. =/

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