- Luke Monahan
Emotion and communication
Lately I've been seeing videos/conversations about sexism and racism both here and in other forums.
The one thing that stands out to me more than anything else is emotion as a roadblock to a thoughtful exchange of ideas.
We all seem to suffer from a bad case of us and them mentality where we try to categorize people we encounter as one or the other.
It would be really easy to argue with someone that is exactly as you imagine them to be because you've already rehearsed the argument a million times in your head, a drooling hateful pervert/racist/whatever else.
Unfortunately, more often than not, you find someone that is in some grey zone and you do your very best to convince yourself and them that they are one of the people that are creating the problem in order to act out your fantasized conversational exchange where you tell them off for being such a bad person.
When you have two people trying to act out their fantasized conversational exchange, they seem to be very good at finding a way to accommodate one another and end the conversation with nothing less than the most bitter hateful wrath.
I certainly know that I am not above this sort of flawed thinking and I can remember times when I have been down such a path.
To what extent can we be aware of ourselves and stop this from happening?
Why are we so blind to the cognitive flaws which stop us from having meaningful and constructive interaction?