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What are some words or phrases that you would redefine or remove from your language?

An idea to challenge the current models of meanings.

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    Gail . 50+

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    Jul 17 2012: I personally prefer harmony, but I also use the word peace when it will be understood by the listener. (Most people think that peace is something that peace is not - so though I like the word, few understand it - just like love)
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    Jul 13 2012: I can't and the computer won't let me. I've always thought I can't should be removed wouldn't even let my kids say it. As far as the computer won't let me I just tired of hearing it they are running the machine not the other way.
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      Jul 13 2012: Hello dean!

      For a second, I totally wasn't sure what you were trying to comment about, but as I envisioned some quotation marks around "I can't" and "the computer won't let me", my brain readjusted. Thanks for the comment, and hope you take my critique lightly? =)
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      Jul 13 2012: Well I also totally agree with your "the computer won't let me", but to the extent of the individuals' knowledge will allow them to work technology somehow. For me, I can, at times, be technologically illiterate, but I always practice and assimilate the information I learned (when I understand that is =P).

      "I can't" for most cases probably is a self-fulfilling prophecy, but I guess one won't know till they try, though failure happens, then perserverance! =D
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        Jul 13 2012: Yea my puncatiion sucks and I take most ciritism alright most the time. I. Can't. Is not only a prophecy it also tells you they will only put a half hearted attemped into it. They also are seting up for an excuse for failiure
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          Jul 13 2012: Ha! I guess most people see that as human nature to set themselves up for failure.

          My 7th grade history teacher told me "If you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail", so in the case of preparing to fail, that person, logically, succeeded or was prepared, I guess. HA!
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          Jul 13 2012: I think we should congradulate those people who say I can't, then try, then proceed to fail because they prepared to fail, so they were prepared.

          Just a final joke. =P
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    Jun 28 2012: .
    Not woth removing yet it really took me some time to get used to it is the following phrase:

    'Why don't you ...?'

    And even though I learned about its meaning and its inoffensive intention it sounded insulting to my ears for a long, long time and pop's up every now and then even today, beginning in 1999! And it could even become worse by adding:

    'Why don't you just ...?'

    My inner silent response, better to say protest monologue, to that would have been something like this:

    Hmm, let's think, why didn't I? Maybe because I am stupid? Maybe because I did not get it? OR...

    - here my inner voice already became that loud that it could have been heard if it was silent -


    It only bugged me in the context of beeing asked to do something, never within a talk or discussion.

    No, no one got hurt and we all became good friends at the end of my learning curve... :o)
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      Jun 28 2012: "Why don't you....?" or "Why don't you just....?" does sound a bit rude, but if the intentions are not to be rude, then no reason to fuel that flame. Glad things worked out for you and your situation with others and "Why don't you (just)....?"
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    Jun 28 2012: Well, as English is not my mother tongue and the one which is not especially known for its 'softness', there is one word I never became friend with and it feels like as if the number of teeth and tongues in my mouth doubles or triples instantly tho moment I have to pronounce the following:


    How do you do that without any serious accident? Pure magic!

    Therefore and hereby I respectfully request the English speaking world to release all of us language untalented Germans - which probably boiles down to me only - from this terrible word and to give us (me) a fine substitute instead. Preferably a much shorter one with lots of C's, K's and/or R's..., just be creative!

    And because I am no native speaker I could regardlessly remove this word from your Language if you would just let me. And no, I am not eschxagguaerating here! See... Listen!

    It sounds like some average isotonic sports-drink anyway and would probably glow in the dark due to its obtrusive coloration ...

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      Jun 28 2012: Replace exaggerate with stretch; phonetically written [stir-reh-ch].

      For example, "Stop stretching the truth" or "Please stretch that end of the rope for please".

      Hope that helped? =)
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    Jun 20 2012: "Begs the question" has to go. It is the most misused phrase I know of. When people use it they mean "Raises the question." Begs the question means that it is a circular argument.

    I agree with Kevin that fad saying should not be recognized. I do not allow "hate rap" or fad terms in my home. While here you will converse using accepted terms and phrases or I will correct you. As a coach I do not respond to what I term as unacceptable speech. You are still under school rules and in an educational facility and that is not what we teach. There are some terms that will get you benched for a game and some that will see you off the team.

    The problem is that we allow this to occur in our home and in our schools. I have found that if you make reasonable rules and enforce them that the team will back you. Away from school kids approach me and introduce me to their parents and the parents say the kids tell them I am their favorite coach and that I am strict with them. Being fair and consistent is not always easy or convientent. I have been questioned by administration and parents for benching a "star" player that could have won us a game. I always answer is winning the only thing. What will happen to the athlete at the next level or more importantly in life. Like it or not we are all role models. Do you play by the rules?

    The question is are you a leader or a follower ... Part of the solution or part of the problem.

    All the best. Bob.
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    Jul 16 2012: I would like to see the word "love" removed. It means something different to everyone. Too many parents spank/beat children because they "love" them. The God of Abraham killed his beloved son because he loves you. Government wants you to pay taxes for morally abhorrent things because government represents you (loves you).

    the word love is responsible for more cruelty than any word that I know.
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      Jul 17 2012: Similar uses have been used for the words "friendship" or "family". Strange how people abuse these words.
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    Jun 24 2012: Has anyone ever seen this website before?


    You can even find definitions of your name, but don't get offended because it's the messier side of the internet world away from sites like ted.com, so it is filled with obscenities that can be entertaining at times. =)
  • Jun 21 2012: Before it became common and devalued, I loved the word awesome, meaning inspiring awe. Used literally, it must necessarily be used rarely. I hope it's current usage dies soon.
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      Jun 21 2012: Like, if I answered your comment with "awesome"!? =P
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    Jun 20 2012: Hi Derek,
    I removed "should" and "shouldn't" a long time ago:>)
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      Jun 20 2012: Colleen! Hi!

      Its been awhile!

      Why "should" and "shouldn't"?
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        Jun 20 2012: Hi again Derek:>)
        I see you hopping around TED, and we have not had the opportunity to meet in conversation for awhile:>)

        I removed should/shouldn't from my vocabulary because those words are limiting. Who says we should/shouldn't? Also, they send the message that what I am doing at the moment is not the "right" thing to be doing. It sends the message to myself and others that I am not content with what is happening in the moment, when in fact, I LOVE to be totally in the moment and am grateful for every single moment.
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          Jun 21 2012: Hi Hi again Colleen,

          Magnificent! I totally understand now. I think I am going to adpot your abstinence from the words should/shouldn't. Thank you for filling my brain with more knowledge! =)
        • Jun 21 2012: Hi Colleen,

          I tend to avoid should and shouldn't, but for different reasons.

          Is "moral obligation" part of your vocabulary?
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        Jun 21 2012: Hi Barry,
        Why do you avoid the words should and shouldn't?

        Can't say that I've ever used the words "moral obligation". Obligation may be another word that I've subconsciously removed. I wasn't aware of it until you asked the question. I don't do things from a feeling of obligation, nor do I want anyone to feel obligated to me. I choose to act/react from a place of love, rather than "obligation".
        • Jun 24 2012: I don't like to tell others what they should or shouldn't do. To me, morality is very individual.

          Nevertheless, within a given society, the members of that society can agree that they have a common set of moral obligations. Sometimes these are codified into law, sometimes not. In general, polite language and good manners are moral obligations.

          I do want strangers to feel obligated to treat me with respect, especially those who do not "act/react from a place of love."
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        Jun 25 2012: Barry,
        I believe that polite language and good manners are preferable. Saying they are an obligation, to me, seems the same as saying we "should".

        If a person does not respect me, I prefer that s/he is openly honest about that, rather than "pretending" because of a sense of obligation. I respect honesty.
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    Jun 20 2012: "Yo mamma" and "that's what she said". Mostly because everybody at my school uses these pathetic jokes over and over again.
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      Jun 20 2012: So Kevin,

      Would you redefine or remove these phrases from english slang?
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        Jun 20 2012: I would remove them. They just get plain annoying when everyone uses them over again.
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          Jun 20 2012: I am guilty of the second one many of the times, but the first phrase is pretty over played and highly offensive at times. =/
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    Jun 18 2012: Honestly, I love words. I love languages and I think that each word no matter how bad its meaning is, is in a sense, beautiful. Well, the exception are the 'new' words (I wouldn't even call them words) that are used in texting, emails and such. So definitely those :)
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      Jun 18 2012: You could redefine words instead of removing them. =)

      Like "I don't like the way this word is interpretted, but this word should actually mean 'this', then it would make more sense...."; something like that... =)
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        Jun 18 2012: hm, you mean like how horrible, terrible and horrific mean bad, and yet terrific means good? :)
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          Jun 19 2012: Yea, in a sense, and how 'full of awe' means amazed and 'awful' used to mean the same thing, but was redefined somewhere through social interactions in the english culture to mean horrible, which is also bad. =)
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        Jun 20 2012: (About what you said to me) I doubt you use it to much though. Many of the kids at my school are wanna be gangsters that think they're tough when they're really just ridiculous.
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          Jun 21 2012: But, I am a total wanna be gangsta yo! LOL! Jk...I try to incorporate witty banter into my conversation and "that's what she said" is irresistable to my personality. I prefer to be to the point with academic language, usually, but sometimes I resort to super slang for certain people to understand me. =P