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What are some words or phrases that you would redefine or remove from your language?
An idea to challenge the current models of meanings.
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Gail . 50+
Gail . 50+
the word love is responsible for more cruelty than any word that I know.
Derek Young 30+
dean crawford
Derek Young 30+
For a second, I totally wasn't sure what you were trying to comment about, but as I envisioned some quotation marks around "I can't" and "the computer won't let me", my brain readjusted. Thanks for the comment, and hope you take my critique lightly? =)
Derek Young 30+
"I can't" for most cases probably is a self-fulfilling prophecy, but I guess one won't know till they try, though failure happens, then perserverance! =D
dean crawford
Derek Young 30+
My 7th grade history teacher told me "If you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail", so in the case of preparing to fail, that person, logically, succeeded or was prepared, I guess. HA!
Derek Young 30+
Just a final joke. =P
Lejan . 30+
Not woth removing yet it really took me some time to get used to it is the following phrase:
'Why don't you ...?'
And even though I learned about its meaning and its inoffensive intention it sounded insulting to my ears for a long, long time and pop's up every now and then even today, beginning in 1999! And it could even become worse by adding:
'Why don't you just ...?'
My inner silent response, better to say protest monologue, to that would have been something like this:
Hmm, let's think, why didn't I? Maybe because I am stupid? Maybe because I did not get it? OR...
- here my inner voice already became that loud that it could have been heard if it was silent -
... MAYBE BECAUSE I JUST DID NOT KNOW ABOUT IT!!!
It only bugged me in the context of beeing asked to do something, never within a talk or discussion.
No, no one got hurt and we all became good friends at the end of my learning curve... :o)
Derek Young 30+
Lejan . 30+
exaggerate
How do you do that without any serious accident? Pure magic!
Therefore and hereby I respectfully request the English speaking world to release all of us language untalented Germans - which probably boiles down to me only - from this terrible word and to give us (me) a fine substitute instead. Preferably a much shorter one with lots of C's, K's and/or R's..., just be creative!
And because I am no native speaker I could regardlessly remove this word from your Language if you would just let me. And no, I am not eschxagguaerating here! See... Listen!
It sounds like some average isotonic sports-drink anyway and would probably glow in the dark due to its obtrusive coloration ...
:o)
Derek Young 30+
For example, "Stop stretching the truth" or "Please stretch that end of the rope for please".
Hope that helped? =)
Derek Young 30+
http://www.urbandictionary.com/
You can even find definitions of your name, but don't get offended because it's the messier side of the internet world away from sites like ted.com, so it is filled with obscenities that can be entertaining at times. =)
Barry Palmer 50+
Derek Young 30+
Robert Winner 50+
I agree with Kevin that fad saying should not be recognized. I do not allow "hate rap" or fad terms in my home. While here you will converse using accepted terms and phrases or I will correct you. As a coach I do not respond to what I term as unacceptable speech. You are still under school rules and in an educational facility and that is not what we teach. There are some terms that will get you benched for a game and some that will see you off the team.
The problem is that we allow this to occur in our home and in our schools. I have found that if you make reasonable rules and enforce them that the team will back you. Away from school kids approach me and introduce me to their parents and the parents say the kids tell them I am their favorite coach and that I am strict with them. Being fair and consistent is not always easy or convientent. I have been questioned by administration and parents for benching a "star" player that could have won us a game. I always answer is winning the only thing. What will happen to the athlete at the next level or more importantly in life. Like it or not we are all role models. Do you play by the rules?
The question is are you a leader or a follower ... Part of the solution or part of the problem.
All the best. Bob.
Derek Young 30+
Your second paragraph reminds me of a current ongoing conversation I made.
http://www.ted.com/conversations/12014/academic_type_writing_speech_v.html
Fad terms reminds me of normal conversation, while school settings are like academic speech, right?
Also, I feel you sound like an awesome role model.
Best of wishes for the future! =)
Colleen Steen 500+
I removed "should" and "shouldn't" a long time ago:>)
Derek Young 30+
Its been awhile!
Why "should" and "shouldn't"?
Colleen Steen 500+
I see you hopping around TED, and we have not had the opportunity to meet in conversation for awhile:>)
I removed should/shouldn't from my vocabulary because those words are limiting. Who says we should/shouldn't? Also, they send the message that what I am doing at the moment is not the "right" thing to be doing. It sends the message to myself and others that I am not content with what is happening in the moment, when in fact, I LOVE to be totally in the moment and am grateful for every single moment.
Derek Young 30+
Magnificent! I totally understand now. I think I am going to adpot your abstinence from the words should/shouldn't. Thank you for filling my brain with more knowledge! =)
Barry Palmer 50+
I tend to avoid should and shouldn't, but for different reasons.
Is "moral obligation" part of your vocabulary?
Colleen Steen 500+
Why do you avoid the words should and shouldn't?
Can't say that I've ever used the words "moral obligation". Obligation may be another word that I've subconsciously removed. I wasn't aware of it until you asked the question. I don't do things from a feeling of obligation, nor do I want anyone to feel obligated to me. I choose to act/react from a place of love, rather than "obligation".
Barry Palmer 50+
Nevertheless, within a given society, the members of that society can agree that they have a common set of moral obligations. Sometimes these are codified into law, sometimes not. In general, polite language and good manners are moral obligations.
I do want strangers to feel obligated to treat me with respect, especially those who do not "act/react from a place of love."
Colleen Steen 500+
I believe that polite language and good manners are preferable. Saying they are an obligation, to me, seems the same as saying we "should".
If a person does not respect me, I prefer that s/he is openly honest about that, rather than "pretending" because of a sense of obligation. I respect honesty.
Kevin Jacobson
Derek Young 30+
Would you redefine or remove these phrases from english slang?
Kevin Jacobson
Derek Young 30+
Branislav Ivkovic 10+
Derek Young 30+
Like "I don't like the way this word is interpretted, but this word should actually mean 'this', then it would make more sense...."; something like that... =)
Branislav Ivkovic 10+
Derek Young 30+
Kevin Jacobson
Derek Young 30+