Dania Mah


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The real reason why success is so desirable and why it is so much effort.

Success is everywhere, in book stores, on the media, people talk about it, people do things for it but I question why do people constantly want more of it even when they have it. Well success is not like buying a new product or not when you reach a destination, because there is no end.

Success is like a moment when you are in the air after you have jumped. We all know, you cannot be in the air forever as gravity will pull you down. So success is a moment and I believe its so desirable because we cannot control to be in the air forever. Humans like control because every time we discover something, people want to own it or and can never just let it be. We have this constant of needing to do something with it and if you observe, people are trying to find ways to control nature, which is kinda why we keep trying to achieve success because like nature, its impossible or is hard to control.

Now why is it so much work. Well to be in the air longer, we need to grow stronger to jump higher and that takes time because we have to practice same thing over again. Now, ask yourself how long can you keep doing the same thing? We need change, we get bored if its the same. Doing the same thing makes us feel deprived of our lives. So that question, how far can you go is something to figure out on our own through our passions, and that takes...a lifetime

Though what keeps all of us going is when we reach that small goal, that height level we have sebecause when we do, we feel amazing but once we reach it again we dont feel that feeling and instead its moved to the next level and that duration of that feeling is again, something we cannot control. People say its because of wanting happiness but then again the duration of happiness cant be controlled.

So my idea is that we should understand success as a moment and should not feel near to death when we drop a ranking, when someone better beats us or we have failed because success is a moment and we cannot always feel it forever

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    Jul 13 2012: There are so many things that go into this it is hard to properly see them all! For different people there are different reasons, but I think we can make some broad generalizations.

    To start off with success coincides with power. We all work to obtain to be in control of ourselves and it is viewed that power with give us the ability to do that. We believe that if we are in control, then we will be able to make ourselves happy, which is what we all strive in life to be.
  • Jul 11 2012: as long as your desired success will make you happy, then go for it, no matter what that form of success it is
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    Jul 8 2012: Thanks for the question, Dania. I agree with you that success is fleeting and I think that people chase after it with such fervor because they do believe that it will make them Happy but find that they are not and set another goal in hopes that achieving this new goal with make them Happy. The punchline is that it does not work - due to a phenomenon called hedonic adaptation - which is just a very educated way of saying "we get used to it". Even the effect of the greatest achievements wears off. A Happiness boost can be enjoyed by reaching our goals but the trick is to not hang our hope of Happiness on the success but to enjoy the journey along the way as much as we enjoy the achievement itself.
  • Jul 7 2012: I am a person in the body of a leaf.

    From what I have read, most people do not breathe properly. They take a breath, before they should. They do not let the lungs and diaphragm empty, then stop and pause a moment before taking the next one.

    I think it is because humans are so afraid, and they are afraid the next breath won't be there, so they take it early.
    Ahhhh, success. What I believe in is not false. I just proved it, but my trust or faith is not real, though I fool myself in to thinking it is because I had success at drawing the next breath.

    Success is probably shallow attempts to keep the deep-seated fear at bay, because when there is no success or lack of success or short-term success, people feel the fear rise and the effort to overcome the fear and once more prove success, becomes that much harder, why it takes so much effort.

    People don't really know what they believe in. I think of a master bridge builder, who is the best, builds the best bridges, but when they are done, doesn't trust crossing them. We want success, not so much for display but more for pulling us up and out of the muck that most of humanity is forced to squirm around in. It is very hard because others in the muck fear being left behind, and cling and inadvertently pull those escaping back down, so the path becomes really steep and the labor extremely hard.

    I am not a bridge builder but I am a person in the body of a leaf, and I trust the wind.
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    Jun 18 2012: Thanks for the comment bro!
    Well setting is goal is telling yourself to do something to me and so when you tell yourself to do nothing, its an action...so yes success is mainly accomplishing a goal.