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  • R H
  • Chicago, IL
  • United States


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If we hold ourselves and our views to a higher standard, are we then 'snobs' and 'conceited' and 'arrogant' or are we seekers of greatness?

We often judge those, especially whom we're familiar with, who speak in elevated language, who acquire better educations, who accumulate great wealth, and/or who no longer seek our company because of these accomplishments with a certain distain. If we choose an 'elevated' manner of living and leave our old ways, if we require in our lives the finest and the greatest that there is to offer - taking no substitute - does that make us self-centered, or does the seeking of greatness, beauty, and excellence in craftsmenship and quality of life liberate us into becoming all that we truly are capable and desiring of?


Closing Statement from R H

Thanks to all who participated. We see from the responses that the concept of 'greatness' is subjective, and that how we evaluate each other is dependant on our intentions and perceptions - also subjective. Also it was clear that many are unconcerned and ignore the reactions of others opinions and valuation of their actions. If these are true, I think we can conclude that we 'choose' how we relate to one another, and within those choices, we can either 'promote' the efforts of others and be open to change, or not. Few touched on the concept of 'seeking excellence (greatness)' in life vs. satisfaction with the status quo, and why it can be difficult. There were specific tools offered to help us become better 'evaluators' and communicators within groups, and most responded that is was important that we have good skills in communicating and be open to change. I learned through this question that I must be more careful in word choice, and how difficult it can be communicate accurately.

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  • M D

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    Jun 14 2012: It's all down to the whole assertiveness conflict that is agressive assertiveness vs passiveness. I think it all relies on a healthy balance.
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      R H 30+

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      Jun 15 2012: Very interesting assessment. Thank you. A healthy balance, and I would add mutual respect and appreciation. You agree?

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