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How do you handle a situation, when everything goes wrong?

Hi everyone! One of the questions that makes me curious is how do you handle a situation, when everything seems bad, and every time you think you get through it, it is quite the opposite.

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    Lejan . 30+

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    Jul 11 2012: Keep moving, yet analyze ...

  • sheela sridevi

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    Jul 8 2012: Take a small nap and think where it went wrong and proceed from it further..
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    Debra Smith 200+

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    Jul 7 2012: I step back to gain perspective and then if it is mine to solve, I look for the smallest thing that I can successfully accomplish- do it and pick another. If it is a terrible mess, I set a timer so that I work continuously for whatever period of time I choose and then take a break of equal (but never longer) tinme and repeat this process until it is finished or time to go home. If it is ongoing. I start all over the next d

    I usually also am alert for a lesson from the crisis or mess.
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    Alex Yap-Dubois

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    Jun 12 2012: I like to look up at the sky/stars, imagine all the universes out there, and remember that in the great scheme of things, my problems aren’t as cataclysmic as I may think.
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    Frans Kellner 100+

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    Jun 12 2012: Start to trust that everyhing is right, always. If things don't go your way you could be on the wrong track or working against the stream.

    Do what you love and love what you do. Love what you have and all that is given even though it may seem bad.
    Get to a place that feels good for a good feeling is your lead in life.
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    edward long 100+

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    Jun 12 2012: When you are up to your hind-quarters in alligators it is difficult to remember your original objective was to drain the swamp. As Mr. Pinter recommends below, sometimes it's best to focus on the most urgent single issue (alligators). You can refocus on the big picture later.
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    Robert Winner 50+

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    Jun 11 2012: It all depends on the situation. If it is a hostage negotiation or just a conversation at the coffee shop. Step one I always ask myself is "Am I part of the problem". If you are then ask for relief. If the answer to the first one is no then ask if the goal can still be achieved. If so adjust, adapt, overcome. If the goal cannot be achieved then withdraw with all of the dignity possible, go back to the office and analyze what went wrong. We have all had a failure. What is important is what you do next. If you learn from it and grow then you will be know for your ability to regroup. Those people are keepers. If you throw in the towel then you will be know for that and will probally never lead a group again. One of the things that the military and some corporations do is to find your breaking point. We all tend to overload the "doers" and exclude the "space holders".

    As Kenny Rogers said ... You gotta know when to hold em and know when to fold em.

    All the best ...... Bob.
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    Krisztián Pintér 200+

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    Jun 11 2012: focus on one thing at a time.
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    Mohammad Mohammadipour

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    Jun 11 2012: well.. i am trying to see the glass half full...
    i am trying to sleep on the problems..
    i consult with valid people...
    i do exercises..
    i dress up..
    i go to my thinking room (e.g. university-library)
    i pray..
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