- Fonkou Djoendia
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What are 5 things you have learned that has completely changed your life?
I am still a kid, And I love asking questions, cause I believe that the best way to learn is through asking questions. And I love the TED community, its full of amazing individuals. So, What are 5 things you have learned that has completely changed your life?
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life philosoophy question
Maria Valencia
1. Follow your intuition.
2. No let fear to guide you.
3. Life doesn't depend on other people's presence. We are always able to overcome abandonment.
4. The only real responsability we have in life is to be happy.
5. It is possible to live the way we dream.
Claire Williams
2. You can't want more for a person than they want for themselves.
3. One thing Buckminster Fuller said we need to learn from children is to remember to ask the big questions. This is, I think, essential in maintaining a sense of wonder.
4. Perspective can save your life.
5. What's said can't be unsaid.
James McGuiness
Jesse James Allen
Learning to compose music allowed me to express how I was really feeling in ways far greater than words
Learning Martial Arts taught me how important peace and compassion are.
Learning that nothing truly ends, everything just takes on another form was profoundly liberating
Learning that faith, love, learning and art are the meaning of my life :)
Ramon Sender
2. Approached as equals, you can talk to anyone, from rocks to trees to lizards to the universe.
3. That our creator sun is my friend because he/she's always looking over my shoulder and smiling.
4. "That which is not present in deep dreamless sleep is not real." (Tamil Saint, Ramana Maharshi)
5. The resonant, sounding breath is the self-arising (relaxed) manifestation of deep, dreamless sleep.
Rest in it while awake and -- guess what happens? Cats will think that you've found the purrl in the lotus.
Mark Meijer 100+
1. We don't see reality as it is.
2. Most don't want to know 1.
3. We can know 1 if we want to.
4. Appearances are just that. Contrast is the key to the whole magic show.
5. Truth is simple and unassailable, only falsehoods cast doubt and make things complicated.
Ashley Nunez
2. Love yourself. When you do, life becomes a lot more beautiful.
3. In the end, everything will be okay. No matter how tough life may seem sometimes, you always have to remember that there is always someone out there in the world that has it a lot worse than you do. And no matter what situation you get yourself into, it'll be okay because life always goes on.
4. Money is not everything. Money is not the most important thing in life. Money can give that illusion, but never fall for it.
5. Forgive. Life is too short to hold grudges.
Fonkou Djoendia
Victoria Almond
2. My life will be nothing like that of my parents'. I won't be able to buy a house with a big backyard and pay for all my kids' university tuition. The world changes, and we must adapt to it and adjust our expectations.
3. I will make mistakes whether or not I have someone to guide me, and it's better to make my own mistakes than someone else's. I am better off using my own imperfect judgement than trying to get other people to make decisions for me.
4. I am on my own, and I can never fully rely on others to save me if I'm in trouble. I have to learn how to take care of myself and take responsibility for my own safety and well-being.
5. I am not the person I thought I was. I am capable of things that I believed I would never do, given the right circumstances. It is for this reason that I learned compassion for moral transgressions in others, and learned not to judge.
Debra Smith 200+
Steve C
2 The Hiroshima / Nagasaki attacks were a true "holocaust"
3 Our gold isn't in Fort Knox.
4 That people can change for the better.
5 "I have never been especially impressed by the heroics of people who are convinced they are about to change the world. I am more awed by those who struggle to make one small difference after another." ~Ellen Goodman (That quote keeps reminding me that quite often, I'm doing it wrong.)
6 That philoosophy is spelled with three O's :-) {{much more fun that way}}
Erica Christine
1) Only if you can love, respect, & forgive yourself can you then do the same for others. I've learned that walking around in self-pity or unforgiveness towards myself caused me to be blind to the needs of those around me. Understand who you are, & then get your eyes off yourself & onto others.
2) Love is stronger than death & greater than the darkest of evil. "Love conquers all."
3) Actively seek out wisdom.
4)Be careful with your words -- they bring either life or death. It's your choice. Use them as the precious & powerful things they are to us.
5)Live simply. Not only physically, as with a cluttered house, but mentally & emotionally as well. Be careful not to over analyze situations or throw your heart around. It only brings anxiety. Buy only what you need, do all you you can about a situation & then let yourself move on, love fiercely the one man or woman that is your mate in life.
Thank you for this great question!
Ben Streeter
2. Never not do something out of fear. Have a logical reason.
3. Pursue as many things as possible, but don't be afraid to let some go.
4. An act of kindness can work miracles.
5. People come and go in life, both through death and other means.
But I still have many years to revise and add to this list (hopefully).
val abrea
fernnie suchada
2. toughness
3.diligence
4. positive thinking
5.generous
Alwan October
*) Sometimes some people might feel disappointed, different and complete failures but the truth , and the reason for that, is that they are the only ones who are right, when everyone else is wrong, and facing everyone could become a painful journey. That's the point where either a great person is born to change the humanity lives, or a very sad story is born.
*) Some might overlook this but, parents are the key for happy successful life, and I strongly believe that the thermometer of people happiness would stand at the same degree of their parents satisfaction on them as their children. And obeying doesn't always mean doing what they say but it means being always there.
*) Confidence and faith in oneself potential is the turning point of someone who could be a scientist or the archive worker of scientific research labs, the pilot or just a passenger on that plane, and most painfully the lawyer or the prisoner.
*) The most important one is to put your trust in God and always have good faith in God's plans for you whatever happens because in my religion Allah the Almighty said:" I am as My servant thinks I am" if you believed good things will happen they will, even if they apparently look bad or harmful for example accident or someone's death but with good faith you will eventually realize that it happened for a wise reason it was for your favor and best interest. Always pray and seek guidance from God and God shall guide you.
Best Regards
Lejan . 30+
2) There is a multitude of realities
3) Sincerity is not mandatory
4) The blind spots of my eyes are 'filled in' by my brain
5) The meaning of life is 42 (by Douglas Adams)
The order is more or less chronological, a whole list will be completed on my last day, yet each of these eye-opener so far did pretty much change my world as I knew it before.
Any positive insight was and still is a true delight, whereas the others are only part of ones plain life experience... ;o)
Sebastian R.
2) Our supply chain sucks. The way out products are made is very complex. It is difficult to see where the process starts, but usually it involves some kind of slavery (cotton, metals, diamonds, rare earth elements for smartphones.., production of devices (Playstation, iPod...in Foxconn ), which leads to number 3)
3) When you buy something you also approve it. By getting an iPod, shoes or diamonds you say "I think it is a good thing that you do it and how you do it, make more of them".
4) Good grades and status on paper are no primary goals. The primary goal is to make this earth a better place. However good grades and status make this a lot easier. For example if you develop some tech or solve a problem you get a PhD. This is nice but it is only half the way. You also have to make sure, that it is used to the benefit to those who need it. For example to clean up our supply chain (it is ok to use tech as a slave)
5) Talent is overrated. Good people are good at what they do because of practice (10 000 hours). That it does not feel like pain or work to them one could call talent.
Debra Smith 200+
thomas le calvé
life is good ! (sound trivial, but i know what suffering means)
time is choice ! (past is gone, any instant builds a future past..)
death is nonsens ! (where did we get the idea something can stop ?)
people daydream all the time.
people believe they have a leader.
people believe what they believe other people believe.. (infinite recursion here!)
although we all feel alone to some extend, it's impossible to really be.
all words are polysemic & words make world(s).
any good idea can produce the worst result.
kids are usually smarter than their parents. (at least, my daughter is ;-)
Ahmed AYADI
Jim Lopresti
2) We don't see things as THEY are, we see things as WE are.
3) Relationships relationships relationships relationships...
4) Learning never has to stop
5) "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Victor Frankl
Keep asking questions, Fonkou!!
Linda Woodard
Lauren Clark
2. The future is something to look forward to, not to be feared
3. The possibilities are endless
4. You really can do anything/be anything you choose.
5. You get out what you put in.
check out my blog if you like, embrace-the-space.com
Varlan Allan 10+
2.There are 2 sides to every story.
3.What you want to be and what you become are often very different things.
4.There is always hierarchy and classes. Top, middle and bottom.
5.Every time you gain more wisdom you realise how little you know.
Debra Smith 200+
Linda Woodard
Debra Smith 200+
Varlan Allan 10+
Debra Smith 200+
Ramkumar M
Last Year of School....
I guess If You Havnt MaDe a SiNgle MistAke.,.
You havnt Started LiVinG....
So I WiSh Every One To anothEr Life Full Of MistakeS...
Cheers To Life...
jing du
1，learning English
2，Internet
3，dog which tought me to lead a simple life.
4，The Shawshank Redemption and The Legend of 1900 these two movies inspired me to find my own "ship".
5，noticed that everyone is different,and we all will die.
Linda Woodard
And your number 3 was so touching as well, for again, it is so simplel.....but I must confess that really, your #1, for some weird reason, brought tears to my eyes....
Regards from Florida
jing du
Zidni Hendrazid
2. What goes around comes around
3. Optimism will get you far
4. Treat others the way you want to be treated
5. Lower expectations
Sebastian R.
Linda Woodard
William Fogg
2 Taking myself out of the picture when I look to my future...you get interesting results.
3 The people around me are what matter the most
4 Never to underestimate anyone
5 Staying true...always honest to yourself.
This last one is hardest for me.
Fonkou Djoendia
Valerijs Golubovs
"Taking myself out of the picture when I look to my(?) future"
How could you take yourself out of the picture when you look to your(!) future?
Juan Camilo Tovar Castro 10+
1. Present is the most important time but past determines you in some way but it's you who can manage your life by giving the past a meaning that could let you use your present to savoir-être and considering your future as an immediate result of your present. So, what matters it's the meaning you give to your past, your present, your future and the things, people and situations you value.
2. Anxiety is not as bad as it seems to be. Anxiety shows when you feel that something you value is in danger to be lost. And anxiety can give you the strenght you need to defend what's important to you and it's also a master who shows you what you value the most.
3. Smiling can make you feel better. So smile!
4. Reading is one of the most delicious things to do and it's also one of the cheapest, everybody should give it a try.
5. Death is part of our lives and our nature.
Laurna Love
1) Nothing stays the same - life is always changing, 2) Learn to love yourself and others will love you, 3) You can do anything IF you believe in yourself 4) Smile and the world smiles with you, 5) Life becomes precious when you realise it is finite. I am sure I could think of more but these 5 things are probably the things that changed my life most.
Fonkou Djoendia
Linda Woodard
Regards....
Fonkou Djoendia
Linda Woodard
Look at Ron Gutman's book that was published by TED called "Smile: The Astonishing Powers of a Simple Act" on the Amazon site to see a preview (but you may need to buy it to see totally what I mean).
How it is set up is it begins with a personal story and then goes into researched information about smiling and its power. Within that are interspersed personal examples of him again and others (but which I really expected to see way more of). Then it ends with a drawn conclusion. I think this would be a good format for you to use. :-) However, with your examples from here, I think some may need to be asked HOW these things changed their lives and maybe a blurb of who they are, so there are not just continual lists. Now since they are already public, I am not sure if you need permission to use them in another format, so that you will have to research as well. I think too, you could write celebrities or anyone who is famous and I am sure a few will answer you; but be sure to get written permission to use them as well.
I don't know, but at times I seem to know what people would find interesting, and that is why I have been successful in the classroom and have successfully helped two of my author friends add some elements to their works when I edited them that they were happy with as well as their readers when they get feedback; and I really think people would want to read something like this as I know I would. However, you can maybe ask some here who already have responded to your thread to see if they concur even though with almost record of the "thumbs up" is telling by itself. :-)
What a way this would be for you to make some $$$$ for college. :-)
Fonkou Djoendia
Jessica Winkler
2) Tell people you love them every time you see them, you never know when you might not see them again.
3) LISTEN when people are talking to you, put down your media devices!
4) Wake up every morning and choose to have a good day.
5) You can't change anyone, only yourself.