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Fonkou Djoendia

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What is your biggest regret so far?

I am a teenager. And I love asking questions. Especially to adults. And TED is a wonderful community filled with intelligent people! I think we learn more by asking questions. Please tell me, What is your biggest regret so far in life?


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    Jun 11 2012: I think that Kathryn Schulz's talk on Don't Regret Regret http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/kathryn_schulz_don_t_regret_regret.html is a great talk for people to watch about this topic.

    Of course I have regrets: two failed marriages; missed opportunities in advancing my career; not spending more time with elderly relatives before they passed; losing contact with some amazing people in my life and so on. But I own my decisions and my roles in these events, and I feel that I have grown from them. I still beat myself up about things that go wrong, but for less time than I used to. I still feel sick to my stomach when I think of some things from my past and my role in them, usually when I wasn't strong enough to stand up for what I truly believed in, but I know that I am a different person now, and those things helped me become who I am today.

    So in answer, my biggest regret would be that it has taken me so long to learn all of these lessons and understand what I might be able to achieve with my life.

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