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What do I do with my life? How do I make my dreams become my reality?

First of all, thank you so much for reading this. It means a lot.
My name is Fonkou and I am a highschool student.
I believe that my purpose in life is to inspire others to be themseleves and to love who they are. I love helping people. When I am not helping or inspiring someone, I feel so empty and lost. I know it my calling. And I really want to be a motivational speaker, or maybe have my own talk show one day.
But you know its not easy. I wish there was a specific path i could take to get there. Its all luck and chance. If I wanted to be a doctor, there is a specific path to follow where you are almost gaureented to have a job after you're done. But with the field I want to be in. its hard. I don't even know what to major in in college. I am so lost and scared. Someone has any advice? Please if you do, let me know.


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  • T Rose

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    Jun 7 2012: First off, make sure your desire to help people is not coming from a place of ego. There are a lot of shit gurus out there who may be offering pieces of good advice as well as a lot of bunk and it's hard to know which are the gems and which to discard at a young age. If you really want to help people, it seems to me that you have to have a lot of knowledge about human nature as well as a long history of life experiences.

    When I look back at the stuff I believed when I was in my 20s and 30s, I am relieved I didn't publish or go out and speak publicly because as I got older, I realized a lot of it was idealistic as opposed to realistic.

    Also, I notice that people in the public eye "get stuck" in their own raps and fail to evolve as people. Oprah, Chopra, Dyer are still peddling the same crap they've always been and most of it is nothing more than "feel good" new age bs that doesn't actually offer anything concrete that helps people to better their lives overall. Tell people what they want to hear and the money will follow but at the end of the day, nothing's really changed except the numbers in your bank account.

    I'm waiting until I'm older to go public--if I go public at all. I'm currently 47. I'd suggest learning about psychology and philosophy if you want to help the masses and to wait until you are much older before you start telling other people how to live. Also, try to objectively observe what other people are doing and what does and doesn't work as well as discern whether or not they are lying about their happiness, achievements, methods for living, etc. Most people are simply rationalizing and make huge compromises in their lives and then try to tell you why you should too. They also fail to take into account opportunities they had or simple strokes of luck that contributed to their successes.

    You say you're lost and scared so I suggest you keep looking and don't settle for any "answers" that don't feel 100% right. Be 100% honest w/yourself at all times

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