Rafi Amin


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What has been the most Extra Ordinary moment in your life so far ?

Everybody has a an extra ordinary moment of good & bad, The bad is not worth sharing here, obviously it will bring sadness but I want you to share the good one.

By extra ordinary I mean.

1) The one that may have changed your life.
2) The one worth going back in time & feel that moment again.
3) & Obviously the one if you share it here would make you feel good, proud & happy now again.

The 3rd one is what I mean for this conversation.

Thank you

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    Jun 8 2012: Hello Rafi!

    I cannot say I have a lot of experiences like the rest of Ted community, because of my young age. However, one of my weird experiences if I can call it like that, because I still do not know if it is good, bad or both, is moving to United States. I came here 2 years ago from Albania, which is in Europe. I was not the most happy person in the world, but I made it through life, growing up and stuff. Well, my nature is that I fit in very easily, and I do not let other people think that I may not like the environment I am, so it is not a big deal from outside of a point of view. But, the most important thing is that this experience, is making me grow so much mentally. I have to face the stress of school, the stress of another language, the stress of my old friends, who I miss so much (I also learned who my real friends are now, since I do not communicate with all of them since I left).

    In addition, my parents do not speak English very well. They have to do very random jobs here, and nobody really helps. I have to talk to bank managers, I have to help for the rent and everything with translation. It is just stressing for a 17 year old.

    However I do not regret moving here. I may not be happy, but I will be happy in the end, knowing that everything went alright, and I faced everything alone. It looks a weird experience, if you have not tried it, but it has to do with psychological stuff, I reckon. It just feels weird to be so alone in a world full of people, when things did not turn out to be how your parents thought they would.

    Thanks for giving me the opportunity to share!
    P.S: apologies for the long and boring story:P

    Wish you the best.
    • Jun 8 2012: Your story is very important.
      Thank you Antonela
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      Jun 9 2012: Dear Antonela,
      Perhaps you have not had a lot of experiences because of your age, but the one you mention is very significant, and the way you deal with the challenges is very impressive:>)

      You seem to recognize all aspects of the situation (good/bad/both), and you are using the information to grow and learn about yourself and the space you and your family occupy at this time. You are a very insightful young woman.

      I always find that at the other end of the challenges, I feel more strength, confidence and courage, all of which helps support us through the life adventure. You have learned to make lemonade from lemons, and that is a HUGE life lesson...in my humble perception:>) You are not alone my friend. I reckon I agree with you..."it has to do with psychological stuff"...well said:>)

      Your story is NOT "long and boring". It is very insightful and I appreciate you sharing so much of yourself here on TED. You are a GREAT role model:>)
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      Jun 9 2012: Hi Antonela,
      We at TED can say is if you are having a challenging phase in your life , it is your greatest lesson.I dont know if you are able to make sense in your life right now but definitely things will make sense in your life at a later point of time but just don't give up.
      I too have been through this phase of my life when I lost my dad at an age of 15 and was financially broke. However I managed to secure good grades.Eventually went on to be a software engineer with a very good amount of support from my mom and brother.
      But what is important during this point of time for you is support to your family. You may find people rude to you, but you just have to let go of them . You just need to focus on improving your communication better.
      Your story is not boring at all, it reminded me of my own to some extent.All the best

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    Jun 7 2012: Hi Rafi

    Being present at the birth of my daughter. Nothing prepared me for the feeling that I was witnessing a miracle. She can still awe me. At the weekend she was playing with the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra for the queen in a glass boat on the Thames. Changed my life ? You bet.

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      Jun 9 2012: Thank you Peter. For sharing this.
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    Jul 4 2012: If I had to pick one moment, it would be the moment that i first held my eldest son after giving birth to him. Our eyes locked and in this supremely viceral moment, I felt him draw eternity through me and into himself. The birth of the rest of my children was equally profound and yet this first event is the most memorable.
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      Jul 4 2012: Thank you Debra for Sharing this. Your kids are luck to have you as mother.
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    Jun 10 2012: Salam Aleykum Rafi,

    For me, it was the first conversation I had with my "cyber" family members : Debra Smith and Kate Blake.Just the thought of those wonderful moments make me smile. =)

    P/S : If I could, I would like Colleen Steen to be my friend.(that would be a highlight moment in my life!) She's awesome!
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      Jun 10 2012: MY DEAR MUHAMMAD...I AM YOUR FRIEND...thought you knew that:>)

      Thank you for your kind words...you are awesome too my friend:>)
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        Jun 10 2012: Oh Colleen, you don't know how much you've made my day!!! *Feeling giddy*
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          Jun 10 2012: Me too Muhammad...feeling giddy!!! Today is the day of my birth, and you just gave me a HUGE gift of confirming a friendship. This is a "most Extra Ordinary moment"...thank you my friend:>)
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        Jun 10 2012: OMG!!! Happy Birthday!!!!!! Live like a bottle of wine : the older you get, the better. ;)
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          Jun 10 2012: Thank you Muhammad:>)

          One of my "Extra Ordinary" beliefs is..."We do not stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing".

          With that in mind always...all ways...I age with grace, to the best of my ability in every moment:>)
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        Jun 10 2012: A philosophy worth adopting! thanks Colleen =)
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      Jun 11 2012: Walikum asalam Muhammad,

      Good to see you back on TED.

      Indeed this is an extra Ordinary moment to talk with Debra Smith & Colleen Steen.....

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    Jun 9 2012: Well Rafi ,

    There has been many extraordinary moments in my life.So here is goes
    1. I was passionate about music and when I was 13 years old , I learnt to play piano without using any help whatsoever from any sort of teacher and I still can't forget the amount of happiness I got .To some extent , I was not able to believe myself.
    2. The second time is after battling typhoid and after recovery , I realized ,I could write articles or post interesting questions ,reply to some interesting questions and share my opinion on TED . I realized that I could communicate very effectively , convince people to understand what I am saying. Sort relationships

    From these two extraordinary achievements , I am planning to take up music professionally though I am a Software engineer by profession . I will go to counselling classes and slowly help people solve their personaly problems. But I will continue to explore useful websites because if I am able to write so much , its only because of going through lot of self help books and blogs .

    Last but not the least , planning to give a couple or more TED talks .

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      Jun 10 2012: thanks for sharing all these. Battling typhoid is harder than giving a TED talk. Wish you good luck.
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        Jun 10 2012: Thank you so much Rafi. It is really inspiring for me to listen to someone from Afghanistan . I too wish you the very best in your future endeavors.
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    Jun 7 2012: Hello again Rafi,
    I agree with most commenters on this thread...there are MANY extra ordinary moments in my life experience:>)

    The moment that I was close to death because of a horse back riding accident probably is the most significant moment of this life experience.

    You say you are looking for..."3) & Obviously the one if you share it here would make you feel good, proud & happy now again".

    You may wonder why and how a near fatal head/brain injury can cause one to feel good, proud & happy? It is because of all the lessons I learned from the experience, which I could not have learned in any other way. I feel good that I can function, in spite of the prognosis. I feel proud that I had the strength, courage, & determination to move through the challenges. I am grateful for the wonderful, loving, encouraging support from friends and family. I feel happy with the knowledge I gained, and the process of percieving this experience as I percieve all others...an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve.

    Rafi, you write in your introduction..."Everybody has a an extra ordinary moment of good & bad, The bad is not worth sharing here, obviously it will bring sadness but I want you to share the good one".

    Whether we percieve an experience to be "good" or "bad" is a choice. It is our perceptions, attitudes and choices about how we percieve the life experiences that form our reality. This is my perception of the life experience, and I think/feel it is the message Matthieu Ricard brings us as well:>)
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    Jun 5 2012: Can I only have one? Birth of my children, falling in love, getting married, the first time I played my guitar in front of thousands of people, every time I play my guitar in front of thousands of people. You choose.
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      Jun 5 2012: You have have sorted them in your comment.

      but I would pick Birth of your children.

      Thanks for sharing.
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      Jun 11 2012: Thanks for sharing this.
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      Jun 5 2012: Hi Kate,

      Good to see you back on TED.

      Quote:when a light bulb went on in my head literally

      I could not get what do mean by IT ? Sorry my english is not very good.
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        Jun 9 2012: Dear Rafi,
        "A light bulb went on in my head" is a common way to describe "insight", "discovery" of something in oneself, or enlightenment. Kate is enLIGHTened with a light bulb going on in her head:>)
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          Jun 9 2012: Thank You Colleen. I wish I could give something back but you are already perfect
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        Jun 9 2012: Oh My goodness Rafi! My perception of myself is a "work in progress", exploring the life journey.

        Rafi, you give a lot, which I appreciate. Thank you for being you, and sharing the gift with me:>)
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    Jun 4 2012: I was 14 years old, and I heard this for the first time :


    I was entranced. This changed my life.