Dyed All Hues

Thinker and Experimenter,

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If you could learn or unlearn one thing, what would it be?

Something that you wish you had the time for, but don't have such luxury. Be as detailed as you like.

  • Jun 13 2012: I would unlearn the self-doubt that sometimes inhibits me from acting on whim.
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      Jun 13 2012: I empathize with you and have thought of the same. =)
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    Jun 11 2012: I'd like to learn the complete art of listening. To know how listening to the people and not thinking about what I'll respond. I'd like also to learn about hoy to enjoy listening the others.
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    Jun 8 2012: I would love to learn what it would be like to see the world and each other through everyone's eyes at the same time.
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      Jun 8 2012: That would be supernova of emotions and experiences at once. Amazing to have, but scary to think of the reprocussions.
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        Jun 9 2012: I have to hope that if we really saw through their eyes we would have empathy and understanding beaming out of every pore in our body.
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    Jun 2 2012: First a quick story. I went to the doctor and explained that my memory was not as good as it once was. I had recently started forgeting things. He ask me to tell him something that I had forgot.

    I wish that everyone could learn that just because he has a title (Dr, Lawyer, candlestickmaker), he was good at academics and not always at application.

    Blind faith is a bad thing. Do your own research and make your own decisions. We have become sheeple and follow political parties, unions, and other "officials" without question. STOP.

    Certainly go to a professional when necessary, but check them out first. The same for anyone you vote for or any office you frequate.

    All the best. Bob
  • Jun 1 2012: I would really like to forget a police officer lying under oath about a speeding ticket. I would like to go back to trusting the police and not feeling rage inside often. It honestly makes me very uncomfortable around cops in any situation, and less safe for both myself and the officers. I do believe it has benefited me in some understanding of what a lot of minorities feel when they are dealing with officers, but it makes it much harder for me to work a job knowing that a portion of the funds are being used to support abuse. Even if most officers are good people (I believe they are.), it's really hard to know our history, and past abuses and see how to forgive institutions that claim the inability to make a mistake. I got called a liar and a conspiracy theorist when I attempted to report his crime by the officer I reported it to. I have a good life and thankfully this is the most hurtful thing anybody has ever done to me, so I would like to design a police force that is capable of admitting it's mistakes at a quicker rate than the Vatican.

    All our institution have flaws that can tear them down and I would like to learn how to both spot and correct with intelligent discussion the institutions that we need to exist. I think everybody should feel that they have people they can call on when they are in trouble without fear. I would like to learn also how to better feed those most in need of food, and regrow support for building positive structures that will help humanity survive. This is hard in a world with a lot of fear and mistrust. So I would like to work on ideas that bring both those down.
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      Jun 2 2012: I like your passion! I most agree about remodeling of institutions that are easily corruptible. =)
    • Jun 2 2012: Sutton, I hear you.

      We all know what police culture is. We see it lampooned in comedies and struggled against in dramas, and any of us who have been on the wrong side have seen it ourselves. The dehumanizing mode of being the "subject" or the "suspect".

      It's strange to me that you say that cops are mostly good. They are not. They are just people - people in an institution which shapes them into people who do both good and bad things in service of exercising their power.

      Forget your anger. Injustice is everywhere. But stay away from cops. Their cultural power drive is dangerous to someone who demands justice. Justice is irrelevant. (I am being too extreme, please add some "mostly" and "basically" and "often" qualifiers to this.)

      Let's take away their power drive somehow. Replace their role in the community as enforcer and protector with street sweeper and occasional enforcer.

      Or perhaps best, let's find a way to live without power struggles as much as possible. What do you think? What could be done?
      • Jun 6 2012: I think you are on the right track. Conflict is inevitable, but our current institutions that deal with it are based on cultural ideas that are centuries old. We need some innovation in this area that matches the innovation we see in our technologies. Some schools teach conflict resolution techniques to very young children. That is just a start. Perhaps those children, as they grow up and practice these skills, will be the innovators.
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    Jun 13 2012: I would unlearn the idea that I should be rich. With that I wouldn't expect so much from my efforts, I would live for the living rather than the having. I would live within a decent budget and find comfort in staying inside of it rather than sadness from having to restrain myself.
    I would learn to be happy with what I have and what I can do.
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    Jun 13 2012: The art of communication, especially "when to" and "when not to communicate". It is not that people dont know how to communicate, but often times one finds that they wish they had not communicated they way did, in a given situation. This is true for both personal and business situations.
  • Jun 6 2012: I would like to unlearn the notion that some problems require a violent solution.

    I would like to learn what kind of person I would be if I had never learned that sometimes violence is a legitimate response.
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      Jun 6 2012: Hi Barry,

      Very courageous of you to bring attention to this subject, but I too wish to unlearn violence as a solution and I wish I could spread the "unlearning experience".

      Thank you for your impactful response.
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      Jun 6 2012: In restrospect Barry,

      Do you perceive physical actions as a solution to be an innate/annimalistic part of human kind or is it the media and images we grow up viewing?
      • Jun 6 2012: I suspect it is both.

        Have you seen the documentary series about the meerkats? Warfare between meerkat groups is the way they expand their foraging territory. When I first saw this, I had a terrible feeling. They were us. I hope we can learn to give up violence.
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    Jun 4 2012: I do not wish to unlearn anything.

    This is because whatever you learn or unlearn, you learn something else from it. For instance, if you've learned a bad habit, then you'll later learn that you'll need to stop it and that it is negatively effecting you.

    Maybe my description and explanation is slightly confusing, but I hope you all understand somewhat why.
    • Jun 4 2012: Totally agree. Every experience, good or bad, is valuable and should be cherished and learned from. Trying to unlearn something would be a waste.
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      Jun 5 2012: Hello Rosa,

      I can understand how unlearning something may seem counter-productive, but if you consider my example below it may seem more relevant.

      Prejudices and biases are difficult to supress in one's mind, so the easier route, in my opinion, would be to unlearn prejudices and biases.

      I would arguably say that, one could learn from the experience of unlearning something.

      Thanks for reading my thoughts.
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    Jun 2 2012: I would unlearn how to take judgement from others.
  • Jun 1 2012: the inherent racism of my culture.
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    May 31 2012: I would unlearn my knowledge of useless movie and pop-culture trivia, it takes up to much of my memory.
  • Jun 13 2012: Learn: The Meaning of Life
    Un-Learn: [probably] The Meaning of Life (after having just learned it)

    ;-)
  • Jun 13 2012: I wish I could learn how to dare.
  • Jun 13 2012: When I get an opportunity, I will definitely learn to sing. I think it will reconnect my body and my soul and will improve my overall wellbeing and add presence. (I promise I won't sing all the time... just every now and then)

    I know there is an "or" between learn / unlearn in the question, but I will still add what I'd unlearn - the habit of trying to align to others and to seek approval. Quite a destructive habit that is an obstacle to true creativity and leadership. Work in progress.
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      Jun 13 2012: I like your learn and your unlearn.

      How rebellious of you to respond to both! Haha.

      Ps: Daria, I really should have added an "and/or" between learn / unlearn, but I am glad you made your choice. =)
      • Jun 13 2012: I don't care if you like or unlike it anyways! ;) ... work in progress
  • Jun 12 2012: To play the piano.....to go trough the world helping children, as a full time "job"..... maybe someday.....in another life:).... for now I´m learning to be a scout helping the children nearby, maybe next year I´ll try to learn music, so in a feeeewwwwww years I´ll be able to begin the piano:).... The import is that if we want something very bad, there´s always a way, maybe not the perfect one, but there´s always a way.....
  • Jun 12 2012: I love art
    but cannot draw a line
    I am afraid if I learned to paint,
    like Narcissus,
    I would fall in love with my own creation, and die.
  • Jun 9 2012: Learn: how to better reach across cultural and political divides to raise the level of empathy and humanity on both sides.

    Unlearn: exposure to the depths of human depravity via the online environment and "entertainment'; of man's inhumanity to mankind. Look into the void and it looks back. It's getting so bad that it's no longer fringe videos on YouTube but in major films coming out of Hollywood. The violence, blood, guts, and gore in action movies is becoming so realistic that I walk away feeling Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder along with the desensitization that one would experience in war. There are some things I'd be perfectly happy going to the grave never knowing or seeing.
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    Jun 8 2012: I think humans have a limitless capacity to learn and as I tell my students 'WHATEVER you want to learn, learn it deeply and with conviction..find the joy learning something beyond the shallow, that way fulfillment lies. Yes, we have limited time to make our impact but you know what?, we somehow always find time to learn what matters. The secret to learning is find out what matters...... to you.'

    To unlearn feels unnatural. I believe learning is any (relatively) permanent change in behaviour that occurs as a direct result of experience and as such only goes in one direction:forwards. learning involves GAINING something and as such is a positivist endevour.
  • Jun 7 2012: Learn; An unambiguous, testable theory of everything. :)
    Unlearn; The experience of growing up in a conservative, abusive, and intellectually suffocating childhood.
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      Jun 8 2012: Our experiences make us who we are, but unfortunately the environments and the experiences aren't always good ones. They do have their upsides though.
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    Aja B.

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    Jun 6 2012: I'd like to learn to play the steel drums. No, seriously! I know I'll never have the time, though. And my neighbors probably wouldn't appreciate it. :)

    Unlearn... tough, since even the unpleasant things I've learned were still valuable...

    You know how some people vacation in Thailand and take cooking classes there? Maybe someday I'll take a vacation somewhere where you can learn to play steel drums. On the beach. With some sort of coconut/tiny umbrella drink. ;)
  • Jun 4 2012: I wish to unlearn my American indoctrination. I left.

    Race: Human
    Nationality: Earth
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    Jun 2 2012: I want to unlearn/forget what I witnessed during civil war in my country Afghanistan & yeah I,m really interested to learn how to bring peace in to a war devastated country.
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    Jun 1 2012: I wish I could take a note from my childhood pages and learn to be naive again - in the sense that children believe they can do anything, it's only as they grow up that society teaches them otherwise.
    The mind is such a powerful thing, that I am only now re-learning that we truly CAN do anything we believe, but it could have saved me a lot of time and self doubt.
  • May 31 2012: One big thing:
    Everything I was told up to the age of 5, by everyone who told me

    After that, I would have known not to believe or trust anyone
    • May 31 2012: But that knowledge gives you a better understanding of where everyone else in the world is coming from :)
      • Jun 1 2012: I agree....why unlearn anything? All it does is give you a better since of your surroundings and helps to prepare you for the future. How does the saying go? 'Learn from your (or others in some cases) mistakes.' As for what would I want to learn that I haven't already; I would hate to fill up so much space and waste everyone's time....too many things to 'learn' about & experience in life. All you can do is the best you can.
  • Jun 13 2012: I would love to learn to write with my left hand - I like to hold a book with my right but then am forced to switch it to the other hand when I want to take notes. sigh.
  • Jun 13 2012: I would like to un-learn the process of embalming a dead person. Let me explain. A couple of years ago I was in a waiting room to see my doctor when a man in the room explained to me how they embalm people right down to the last detail. Like I really wanted to know. Well anyway after that learning experience I have decided to be cremated instead.
  • Jun 13 2012: I wish i could unlearn technology that has made me do this job that i absolutely hate.
  • Jun 13 2012: Latin

    This will be one thing I want to learn more than anything else
  • Jun 13 2012: To live simply in the present
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    Jun 12 2012: Even the lessons I didn't want to learn have proved beneficial to me, but if I were to learn something in the time I have remaining, it would be how to play the lute and all those Engliah and Scottish ballads from the Middle Ages, and not just those chivalric sagas, but also those bawdy drinking songs.
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    Jun 12 2012: Maybe that talk on ugly penises? I could have lived the rest of my life without knowing about elephant penises. yep.
  • Jun 12 2012: I would like to learn how to invest my time in constructive works which would then help me to grow professionally and want to unlearn the habit of not listening to others.
  • Jun 11 2012: i want to learn the experience of living life.. and don't want to learn the drawbacks of living life.
  • Jun 11 2012: Learn: Something completely new.
    Unlearn: Does emotions count? Reliving all emotions for the first and following few times would be great.
    If not emotions, entertainment. I'd love to relive all jokes, movie endings, songs and ect.
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    Jun 11 2012: i want to learn the art of speech.
    nothing to unlearn
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    Jun 9 2012: I think you should never loose your will to learn new things. If someone has no curiosity to learn and experience new things, he is living just physically. Discovering new worlds around you is wonderful. If I had the time I would go to all possible universities, attend all possible classes, learn new skills because knowledge makes our life easy.
  • Jun 9 2012: I really want to learn how to stop being indecisive... : )
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    Jun 9 2012: To Learn: Myself and what I'm capable of.
    To Unlearn: nothing, even the bad things I learned have helped to shape who I'am.
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    Jun 2 2012: I would unlearn my remaining hesitancy to say 'I don't understand' (I don't have much of that trait left but I'd like to get rid of it all!)
  • Jun 2 2012: I'd like to learn everything about Positive Psychology and how to design my own Life... with that, I think I'd have the tools to learn whatever I wanted (A.I.), and accept that I'm ignorant about most specialties.

    I'd like to unlearn the cynical self-centeredness that drowned me when I rejected religion, to again feel the openness of childhood. (I don't want to forget nihilism - it is crucial to my history and understanding - I only want to unlearn the habits of that worldview.)
  • Jun 1 2012: I wish to unlearn the word "RELIGION" and learn more about mankind full potental: the brain,
    6th sence, etc.
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    Jun 1 2012: thats easy id learn telekinesis. i wanna move matter with my mind! id unlearn much of the training the army put in my head.
  • Jun 1 2012: unlearn.....the teaching of the Roman Catholic church
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    Jun 1 2012: Learn One thing : Clinical Psychology
    Unlearn One thing : To completely stop complaining about situations

    Cheers,
    Bharath
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    Jun 1 2012: I also would like to learn how to edit movies... I did a course on it but I just don't have enough patience and practice to do it.
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    Jun 1 2012: I'm trying to learn how not to react quickly to what happens around me. It's much better to wait a little bit, think about it for a while and THEN react (or not)...
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    May 31 2012: A gap in my education and experience is that I don't have solid "maker" skills for making physical objects- electronic, mechanical, ceramic, textile ...
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    May 31 2012: i:d like to unlearn my experience with the medical establishment!