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Do you think it's even possible to be 100% happy and fulfilled?If yes, what's your way to do it? If no, why is it so deeply essential to us?

As humans we spend so much (if not all) of our time trying to achieve happiness and fulfillment. Some people try to achieve their happiness from outside themselves, others go inwards towards their thoughts and emotions to achieve happiness. Its something I think about and I'm very interested to hear your opinions :)


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    Mar 17 2011: Short answer: No.

    Long answer: It is not possible, because we are creatures of emotion, of hormones, and of desires. Even the most Zen of Buddhists must still battle against passion. Other religions embrace passion, and preach indifference to harm as the solution to negative emotions. The belief in an ultimate good, an ultimate truth, and an ultimate sense of meaning are also quite comforting, but none of this promises happiness all the time, or even to your greatest level of capacity. We all know that material wealth and comforts aren't the source of happiness (though it could be argued that having them does take a load off of one's mind in terms of where lunch will come from).

    The truth is that there's no way to achieve complete happiness, and the reason it is "essential" is merely because we have been raised to believe that we deserve it. It is not essential. Really, nothing is essential. That sounds nihilistic and existential, but really it's the same idea that Solomon puts forth in Ecclesiastes. Your life doesn't mean anything, nobody's does. If you are religious, then the main point of this existence is to prepare for moving on to a better existence, and nothing in this existence matters (except those preparations). If you are an atheist, then there is no better existence, and from an objective, long term point of view, nothing matters at all. Either way, it is up to you to give your own life meaning and fulfillment. Personally, I find the thought that nothing much matters a comfort in itself: it means that if I screw things up it's no big deal. My life can be world-altering, or I can subsistence farm in Tanzania. The one is no more valuable than the other.

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