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I have had a life limiting event and am developing self efficacy by re-defining my experiences as a quest to help others, any suggestions?

I am currently working towards gaining new confidence on changing my new high paced lifestyle after my life limiting event to mitigate any re-occurances on my return to work while maintaining my emotional excitement. I am planning to re-define this experience as a way to help others and my teams. Would like to know the process/methodology you followed or suggest to determine your quest for your life's journey after your bush with mortality. Thanks for the inspiring message.

Topics: Self Efficacy
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    May 30 2012: Make a choice and choose a dream! Yea, it sounds simplistic but maintaining that focus and choice is the hardest (and most rewarding) bit of work you'll ever do... Been there, wouldn't go back but value the experiences!
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    May 30 2012: I believe most of us are wired to help others, with the difference among us being mainly how broadly we define the community of others we want to help. So for many or most of us, no process or methodology is necessary once you decide to focus on helping others.
    If you have until now not been on a quest to help others and now want to shift your focus to make service to others primary, I have a few thoughts that might help you. One is to take a few hours next weekend to jot down a few notes about the "others" with whom you come in contact most often, what they are trying to do in their lives, and how you might be able to help them.
    Another might be at the end of each day before you go to bed to record for yourself briefly what you did that day to help specific other people along.
    Between these two devices, you will have some goal setting (or maybe more accurately, direction setting) and some tracking of your activity or progress.
    Remember not to "over help." Helping people more than they want is not positive. When you do things for others they want to do for themselves or that is good for them to do for themselves, you are putting your interests ahead of theirs.
    If you have extra time and energy, volunteering can be a regular channel for helping others.
    Best wishes for your continued health and your success in reorienting your life.
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    May 30 2012: You solicited suggestions, Mr.Panaccio, so I have one for you as you set about the task of "defining (there is no such word as "redefine" ) your experiences as a quest to help others." First of all, I wish you success and fulfillment in your quest. When you write be careful about spelling, sentence structure and punctuation. Also, look twice at your writing to be sure it is clear, concise and correct. Keep it simple. Keep it focused. Keep it interesting. You have a story to tell and you know that story better than anyone. Have confidence in yourself, after all, you are the world's foremost expert on the subject. Happy writing!