Rafi Amin


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How to solve youths problems ?

Today youths have many problems I,m listing a few for discussion which I came across below.

Single Parent Households
Drug/Alcohol Abuse
Violence in Schools

My question from you is how can we overcome all these & who may play a vital role here, The parents, The whole society that we have made or maybe the youths themselves.

If you want add your inputs on one particular problem quote the problem please.

Note: I edited the question & explanation as advised by by a senior Tedster. Apologies for inconveniences.

Thank you.

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    May 30 2012: If by "youth" we mean those who are next in line to assume control, then I believe their problems are all the failures of the current ruling generation. Therefore, if we solve our problems we will automatically solve youth's problems. Another way of saying that is, "It is our (the ruling generation) fault, not theirs."
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    May 30 2012: At micro level - family level one way to solve youth problem is by compassion, connecting, understanding and becoming a role model and giving leeway and being patient and not demanding. Initially the senior may feel that he/she is being taken for a ride, but the positive character traits in due course will bring a turnaround.
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    Jun 4 2012: I'll simply state some of the ideas off the top of my head.

    I think a healthier and closer relationship between the child and their family would help solve some issues. Closing the gap between their lives will bring them closer together and help the parents get more involved in the child's life.

    In school, children get bullied. This might lead to several consequences, including suicidal thoughts, violence, obesity, eating disorders, etc to name a few. A helpful way to stop this may be to bring the school community closer together. To do this, perhaps fun school student-led activities (physical, academic, etc) will help. Also, I hate to say this, but maybe uniforms might help. It'll help students prevent from getting bulled by their attire.

    Also, if I may point out, media affects youths in great ways. Many learn and follow what they see as examples. If a footage of negative act (such as kids doing drugs, acting violently, etc) is seen by the youths, there's a chance that they may try them out. So, maybe it'll help to lessen the youths' access to such clips, files, footages, etc. ?

    I hope these help!
  • May 30 2012: Like a lot of these problems aren't just youth only problems either there also adult problems. Adults also abuse substances, are violent, have obesity and health issues, and over indulge in materiel goods. SO what you have listed is actually problems with people of all ages young and old because all of these problems can affect anyone not just youth (exception of single parent household). You could make the point that what the youth does as a youth reflects into adulthood but, this is not in every case so you cannot just single out youth's for having these problems. As a teen i find this question is actually very age discriminatory and singles out youths as having all these problems. So i think that these problems aren't just youth problems but societal problems. I may not be the oldest and the most educated one here because of my age but I'm tired of being bombarded with people telling me youth's have so many problems when adults have a tonne of problems as well, so maybe as i said focus on society's problems and not just single out people of my age.
  • May 30 2012: Society has a collective responsibility to turn its children into adults. This is a practical assertion because children turn from small helpless things into powerful individual actors quite quickly. While this seems obvious, its also true that how society can act on its responsibility is not always obvious. There are positive and negative trade offs to every action, and even the general things that nearly everyone agrees on, like education and health care, often take more resources than are available or society is willing to commit.

    I despair that fixing this problem is beyond our ability to solve. The number of correct decisions and actions that have to be made are more than the stars in the sky. Because it is so complex, the outcomes are chaotic with actual progress rare and short lived. I only have hope because of two things: most humans are nice, most humans learn. Any progress we have made so far is because of this and maybe that is enough.
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      May 31 2012: Hello Donovan,
      I agree with you that the challenge is a "collective responsibility", and the fact is, as you say...children turn from small and helpless into powerful individuals. It is up to the adults to help guide that process in a respectful, kind, compassionate way.

      We face a challenge, however, because many children, were wounded by disrespect, unkind abusive treatment, and that is what they learned to pass down to their children.

      I do not agree that "fixing this problem is beyond our ability to solve". I DO agree that "most humans are nice, most humans learn". That is what each one of us can focus on as individuals. We learn, we grow, we evolve into more compassionate humans...one step at a time:>)
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    May 29 2012: Hello dear Rafi,
    Single parent households, drug/alcohol abuse, violence in schools, materialism and obesity are not simply challenges for youth, are they? Whole societies are experiencing these issues, and unfortunately they continue to affect everyone in our global societies. So, if everyone experiences the cause, effect and consequences, would it be reasonable to believe that everyone could contribute to the responsibility for change? In my perception, if we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem. With these challenges that impact the entire global society, I think/feel, we all need to contribute to change. What do you think about that?
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      May 30 2012: Quote: if we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem.

      I love this thought. thank you .
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        May 31 2012: Hi Rafi,
        It is a thought/feeling I carry in my heart and mind, and it often guides my actions/reactions on the life journey:>)

        Young people are the adults of tomorrow, and as I said in the comment to Donovan, many young people are wounded because of mistreatment. If we genuinely want to change the behaviors of young people, some adults need to change their behaviors as well. We need to stop the cycle of wounding each other...don't you think that would be helpful?
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          Jun 2 2012: Hi Colleen, Of course this will be helpful.
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        Jun 2 2012: I thought you might agree with that Rafi:>)

        We can ALL "BE" the change we want to see in our world:>)
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      May 30 2012: Thank you Jamie. Agree with you on this that adults commit crimes more than the youth. The focus should be on them which also persuades the youth.
  • May 31 2012: The adults of today
    who are the cause of the most of the problems you listed,
    unfortunately, do not want to eliminate the causes, for various reasons.

    In many cases, the changes will be more difficult on them then on the youth who are suffering and these adults forget or ignore that the changes are "not for them", they are for the younger generations to follow.

    The adults of today are not willing to live the kinds of lives they supposedly wish their children or the youth around them to live and enjoy.

    Being able to face the truth and do what ever it takes to eliminate the causes is the only way. Otherwise, most keep falling into the grip of their false beliefs that "life must go on" in spite of the truth we are ruining the futures of all youth, everywhere in the world.
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      May 31 2012: Hi Random Chance,
      I think sometimes, people want to eliminate the causes, and they don't know how. They continue to practice behaviors that are not beneficial to themselves, or their children.......change would benefit EVERYONE.

      Being able to "face the truth and do what ever it takes to eliminate the causes is the only way"...I agree...and sometimes, when people get "stuck" in patterns, it is difficult to change, even if they may want to.

      The children of today, are the adults of tomorrow, and if we (our global society) don't start changing some patterns, we will be repeating the same old behaviors, thereby continuing the cycle of violence and abuse.

      I think/feel the interconnections here on TED are helping to facilitate that change...I am hopefull:>)
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    May 29 2012: Rafi - you know I adore you but this question is wrong headed.

    If youth have problem,s does it help to find someone to blame? These people need skills and empwerment not another scapegoat that distracts them from getting busy and improving their lives, Only they can improve their lives even in war torn Afganistan
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      May 30 2012: Thank you Debra. I realized it & edited the question.
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    May 29 2012: i think the stress of every day life. i was just watching a programme about the immagrants getting preferance to work in our mines in australia. there is also a mining giant lobbying for 1700 jobs to be here for them when the government knows 4000 australians just lost thier jobs and they say theres a shortage of trades man... I think these politicians making the discisions are on another planet making unbelievable money and joint ventures and the reality is too hard for "normal" FAMILIES working two jobs and living on a viscious circle. and kids these days just rebel and want to express individuallity. they dont want to be told what to do and I dont blame them when the public service and the security of our CAREERS are blemished by middle management and accademics who live in lala land and no experience! its similar to the indiginous communities they stick out in country towns from different tribes trying to get along....
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      May 30 2012: Thanks Walkingth for your inputs here.