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Would you risk declaring to a total stranger three TED resolutions?

I met a TEDster on the street. It was the last day of TED and Roger Ebert had just proved, unequivocally, that it is up to each of us to live - live the best life we can with what we are given while all the time figuring out ways about how we can make it better. Anyway, this TEDster and I struck up a conversation and he asked me how I enjoyed this year. And in that moment I realized how exhausted and energized I feel when I am at TED, how many ideas flow, how many people I cross paths with and then how when I get back to the "real" world it that fades - the ideas, the energy, the passion. Life as I know it takes over. So, in a moment of pure lunacy I asked this total stranger if he would commit to me and I could commit to him to a set of resolutions - TED resolutions - that we would declare to each other, to friends, to the world. Why? Everyone needs a little nudge, some encouragement, and friends to stay on the path. We would check in, work together to keep each other on the path to at the very least trying to keep the TED passion alive between now and next year. Crazy? Maybe. Risky? Possibly. Exhilarating? Definitely. So with that, here are my 3 TED resolutions from TED 2011 The Rediscovery of Wonder, inspired by the people of TED, the ideas that drive them and the passion with which they live life every day.

1. Create a mentoring program
2. Write a book about living
3. Dare to be wrong once a day

What are yours?

And remember, no one said it was going to be easy but honestly, would you really want it to be?

Talks that inspired these resolutions from TED 2011- David Brooks, Wadah Khanfar, Bill Gates, Paul Nicklen, Amina Az-Zubair, Sarah Kay, Stanely McChrystal, Kathryn Schulz, John Hunter, Anthony Atala, Felisa Wolfe-Simon

Closing Statement from Lydia Loizides


On the eve of TED 2012, I am writing to let everyone know about the status of my resolutions. I never saw or heard from the TEDster that helped ignite this journey but I want to thank you for the spark.

1. Create a mentoring program - I never created a mentoring program because I realized that I had never been mentored myself so how could I create without experiencing? So, I have spent the year as a Mentee. It has been amazing and I feel now that I can move ahead and pay this experience forward.

2. Write a book about living - Nope. I chose instead to write a book with my 9 year old son. We made the entire book - bound the paper, wrote the words, made the cover, drew the art. It sits in our living room on a shelf by itself - amazing.

3. Dare to be wrong once a day. Done. If you haven't tried it - you should. You have no idea what you are missing.

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  • Mar 22 2011: I wanted to finish my reply but with a 5 year old and a 3 year old I often start things I can’t finish;) So after proper thought to my three points here they are;

    1. Consciously resist the “real” worlds dampening of passion, energy and ideas.
    2. Create a better environment for my family
    3. When I notice something good in someone, don’t just appreciate it silently… let them know.
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    Mar 14 2011: So here are mine...and thank you for this brilliant idea!
    1. Continue to build my facewords (art with a purpose) project, regardless of how slow the response is (inspired by JR)
    2. Conduct marketing and leadership training for a local chapter of a peaceful sustainability activist group in Toronto
    3. Actively advocate knitting as an incredible practice for children that seem to develop connections between their right and left brain functions.
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    Mar 24 2011: 1. Embrace the unknown.
    2. jail break 'impossible.' let impossibilities mull around in my creative thoughts.
    3. Smile more, and learn more about true happiness via a combo of empathy and science.
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      Mar 24 2011: Jail break 'impossible', that's great, would you share the change with us?
  • Mar 18 2011: I like the way you think. I feel the same energy and passion when I simply watch TED talks online, then the passion quickly dies when faced with the "real" world. What does that say about the real world?
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    Mar 14 2011: For me ,as a a chinese college student
    1.i'd like to increase my vocabulary so i can learn English much better
    2.everyday will be a good day my professonal class well and have a good job in the end of this year
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    Mar 24 2011: 1. Create a mentoring program
    what is the topic you will cover in your program?

    2. Write a book about living
    also living is a big topic what part of living you will write about?
    I will write a book /blog about the summary of life since there are too much informations today you need more than your age to just read the title of each printed book , we are lost in the details while we must focus in the summary
    I already started
    but I stopped as you said Everyone needs a little nudge, so I got mine today
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    Mar 23 2011: I have thought about this a lot every year on the drive home from TED. And I found one thing that really has kept me in the TEDHEAD space - and that's the TEDx program. We co-produced one last year, started working on it right after Long Beach and while it was a lot of work, it kept us in touch with what TED stands for (Ideas worth sharing, and in our case, Community) - and we really felt connected to TED - and it worked. The multiple conversations we had with potential sponsors, speakers, attendees and volunteers allowed us to be ambassadors for TED in each encounter. That was an excellent way to keep the spirit alive.

    Also, there are about ten of us from Santa Barbara and we are planning a TEDDinner next month to get together and keep the fire burning so to speak.
  • Mar 19 2011: I am humbled by everyone who has responded! I am trying my best to live to my resolutions every day. It definitely is hard but exhilarating.
  • Mar 18 2011: Lydia,

    First of all, I believe that you've taken the most important step in realizing that your "life as you know it" can become a life filled with exuberance, ideas, both miniscule and grand, and novel ideas made real or tangible. Bravo on taking the big risk of sharing your thoughts with another, TEDster or not, and then attempting to live those thoughts in your daily life through a trio of excellent resolutions.

    To answer your prompt directly, I would happily risk declaring resolutions to strangers, and I encourage my students to do the same. One of the impossible to quantify elements of this type of action is how powerful a reinforcement the act of sharing can be for an idea. Something about speaking that idea aloud makes it more real in you, helps to elevate your consciousness to act upon signals that will advance that idea in your life, and in turn, these reinforcements bring you back to sharing the idea with even more people you encounter.

    I believe that life is meant to be inspired, so that we might inspire those we interact with, whether that interaction is momentary, like your stranger, or semi-permanent, as in the case of friends and family, or permanent, as is the relationship you have with yourself.

    I recently discovered TED, and I'm so moved that I've told all of my friends and family about it. I believe that people like you, the speakers on this site, and those individuals brave enough to share their conceptions of the world will lead us to a better place, not just for us, but for our children, and their children.

    With that said:
    1. I will strive each day to live and appreciate an inspired life - learning and growing from the lessons shared with me.
    2. I will share my insights and life experiences with those who ask for my help, in the hopes that they can learn from my mistakes, and take lessons from my successes.
    3. I will continue to work towards a world where graphene and nanotechnology can be married with energy and healthcare industries.
  • Mar 14 2011: These are all amazing - and a common theme that seems to be emerging is "out of the ordinary" - move, change, challenge, different, new.
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    Mar 14 2011: Hello Lydia!
    With my children all grown and life opening up for a great adventure- here are mine.

    1. Take a teaching English as a second language course (and be mindful of the many TED insights I have gained).
    2. Move to China
    3. Be open to the changes that will come and be committed moment be moment to increasing the understanding between Eastern and Western cultures.

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    Mar 14 2011: It's good to think about this, thank you for the idea Lydia. I hope you, and Codruta and Nassim will succeed. If you guys do not, I know you will have learned a lot.

    1. Try to show as many people as possible how beautifull and strong they are.
    2. Challenge myself to see opportunities at every given moment.
    3. Volunteer in Pakistan for 2 months and let myself change through the experience.
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    Mar 14 2011: 1. Go through my 21 day quest to happiness - being positive everyday and focusing on the good things in my life.
    2. Move to Europe and start my dream career in Marketing.
    3. Create a ''I am enough'' movement (big or small), where people all around the world start being more aware of the fact they are enough and let go of their complexes and sense of unworthiness (inspired by Brene Brown's talk).

    Those are just short term thou, I will hopefully accomplish much more in the next 8-9 months. Thank you for the question.