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What's the best choice you have made?
Just curious whether people are conscious of the good choices they made!
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Debra Smith 200+
Colleen Steen 500+
The best choice I have made, is the choice I'm making in the moment. I think/feel that I explore all available information before making any choice, so I feel confident that the choice I am making is well informed. That prevents regrets. Exploring information well, causes me to be very conscious of each and every choice I make throughout my life.
Now I am reminded...
Perhaps the best choice is the underlying perception to view the life experience as an adventurous exploration, in which I am an eager participant, as well as observer. That choice was made as a wee little child.....yes.....perhaps that one is the "best" because it allows me to see all the following choices throughout my life more clearly:>)
Thanks for your questions Aneesah, which always cause more pondering...or not....it is a choice:>)
Sean Brother
I really try to live just in teh same way as we're talking about.
Sorry for the (language) mistakes.
Aneesah Bakker
When you speak from the heart, nothing else matters. No apologies are necessary!
Sean Brother
Colleen Steen 500+
You are getting your ideas across really well...very understandable.
I wish I could speak and write Spanish as well as you write English:>)
Sean Brother
I feel myself rich, because I speak Spanish and I also adore english language!
Colleen Steen 500+
Cuando se habla desde el corazón, como dice Aneesah, entendemos más que la palabra escrita:>)
Sean Brother
Aneesah Bakker
Sean Brother
I also think than no one has the right to miss another minute of his life. The time we have is limited and our duty to make the best possible things for us and for others. This is not an idealism, I think this ought to be a way of life.
Aneesah Bakker
I have a genuine sense of your joy. It highlights a conversation I had when my book club discussed How We Choose To Be Happy.
You say "This is not an idealism". I agree whole-heartedly!
Lesley Rickard
Frank Rothstein
1- When I realized that I may not be everyone's first choice but I will never be anyones last resort.
2-12 or 13 years ago I promised someone that I would be her friend no matter what. I would always be there for her and never let her down or intentionally hurt her. I have always kept that promise and a year and a half ago I kept it again only this time in order to be her friend I had to hurt her in the short term.. She has a drinking problem that was getting the best of her. Without all the details let's just say I brought an escalting problem into light. I lost my friend obviously but 14 months later she is doing much better. She got the opportunity step back and make a better choice and thrive Not saying she will never drink again but what was happening will never happen again.. Losing the friendship this way was a small prce to pay because had she continued on her path I would have lost it anyway.
Robert Winner 50+
Since I am not a philisopher my answer would be: The choice I made to chase my bride until she caught me.
All the best ............ Bob
John Locke
Kent Spencer 10+
It takes away the feeling of competition by transferring that energy to your overall power to succeed and love.
Harsh Bardhan
Don Wesley 50+
Let the sky be clear and winds light and fresh;
let the sound of flowing spring water be heard in the silence of the early evening horizon.
1. Let the bells ring loud and vibrantly for a minute of melody
2. Let the town crier declare that a happy earth is near; next year.
3. Get busy and ponder the question “To Be or Not to Be."
4. Intend to be the person you are meant To Be.
5. Turn, find and take care of those suffering and tell them the good news.
6. Rejoice with your neighbours as they go on with their new chores.
7. Get ready for the work of harvesting what the world was designed to provide.
8. Celebrate in quiet meditation to regenerate your creative abilities.
9. Pull the strings of your family together and sleep under the starlight.
10. Enjoy your favourite breakfast and leave for the courts to ensure that justice is quick and merciful.
11. Volunteer to be a town crier of good truthful news to ensure the gossips will wither away.
12. Put your Egos in a box and bury them, ensuring your talk will be simple.
13. You will have found the virtue of contentment.
14. The world will be filled with wells of wisdom and wealth.
Don, from the silent generation – April 2012 - From my heart and soul.
Wiktor Kostrzewski
The best choice I've made was not to stay on in my first job. I was going to settle, but the conditions and contracts later became a bit awkward. I could just swallow this bitter pill and put up with it - or start looking around.
I chose to start looking. That took me out of my home town, into my favourite country, onto a really kick-ass teacher training course...and on a journey that looks like it's never going to stop!
Harsh Bardhan
So lastly i think only my education that help me What i want 2 do. So every stages of my life I give priority 2 my education whatever problem i faced. Education is my best choice, I m learning more and more which helps me and others . this is only my best choice in every period of my life.
Thanks Aneesah Bakker to Start this conversation.
Aneesah Bakker
You're welcome! , I thank you too for your response.
You are living a true Hero's Journey, leaving the hamlet and everything you know to venture into the big world, to achieve the ultimate boon (gift of education and it's many rewards) and returning to contribute to your community. I will add that you are also contributing to a bigger community.
The world is a better place for your choice!
Harsh Bardhan
Aneesah Bakker
Mohammad Mohammadipour
Adriaan Braam 20+
Don Wesley 50+
The destination has always been "Contentment," the place where I could enjoy Soul, Solitude and soft Music. It is an area virtually fenced in and very quiet and there is no need for an Ego but always space for my Soul-Mate. You don’t even need a pocket to carry it. It seems to be the only place that you can converse with our Creator. The birds and the bees shared their season. And then one day, my Soul-Mate sneaked away and I lost the Sound of Music.
Aneesah Bakker
Wonderful, I love your use of GPS. I had a conversation with Stuart earlier today about my GPS, global positioning system, follow my heart, my authenticity and my joy.
Don Wesley 50+
I did notice your earlier remark, and hesitated for a moment.
I first used the acronym when I bought a GPS for my driving aid in a new and unfamiliar living area.
That is about two years ago. I did give my life to TGAA many years ago, when I was a youngster.
I used my God given talents to earn my living, creating Intellectual-Know-How. I felt his presence and attribute my success to him alone. I also abhor evil and find myself on “auto-pilot” when it comes to removing the cloaks that hide it.
Paradoxically, when my good wife left me homeless, I felt I was being challenged by the devil as is revealed in the Book of Job.
TGAA refers to The Great Architect Above.
The following links also reveal what I think and feel about good decisions in life:
http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/2011/12/hear-no-evil-see-no-evil-and-speak-no.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/2011/02/secretary-general-if-united-nations-dag.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/2011/05/look-of-kindness-in-action.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/2011/12/love.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/2011/08/blog-post.html
http://innjustice.blogspot.ca/2011/03/click-on-picture-to-enlarge-don-on-his.html
Aneesah Bakker
Like you, I am always conscious of the choices I am making and part of choosing is cultivating practices that support best choices. When faced with "new" or "challenging" circumstances, I consciously create strategies that embody my principles to help me navigate.
This has developed into a passion for acronyms and metaphors. It is probably not too different from when man modelled himself on the best of nature! Be strong like the oak, but don't resist like the oak, bend like the willow.
Thank you for the links I look forward to checking them out this afternoon.
Laurens Rademakers 50+
Making a baby with a woman from another "race". Because I strongly believe in heterosis and hybrid vigor.
And also because I simply loved that woman too much. :-)
Stuart Woods 10+
I think the key word here is conscious. I believe AWARENESS of choice is everything. I’ve been aware of good choices and I feel strongly that asserting choice on things that matter is a very difficult thing. I do say that we innately know when we have made a good choice and true maturity is not needing someone else to tell us it was a good choice.
Ultimately I think that what really matters is actually just choosing…something, get behind SOMETHING. To use the phrase ‘put yourself out there’ .To choose something, anything has a risk, consequences, so it takes bravery.
I guess that’s what constitutes a good choice for me.
Aneesah Bakker
Yes, there are many gems in your answer! I too have learned that the best choices can be felt. I believe we all have this inner GPS and know when we are moving toward the better choice and reach the best in that moment.
It does take risk and responsibility and accepting these too, personally gives me the conviction that I am making a better choice.
I have found the worst choices is when I look outside of myself more than within to make decisions.
Stuart Woods 10+
Aneesah Bakker
you are absolutely welcome! and yes you may. Now I'm liking it even more :-)
John Locke
Roy Bourque 20+
The eduction provided me with skills that would take me throughout my life. I am now retired after having served as the control room supervisor of a city owned utility. I have used the knowledge in many other facets of my life. It still continues to fascinate me.
Aneesah Bakker
e.g. to make the BEST of the choices available to you? .. I am interested in learning what is behind our best choices as well.
I can identify with what you are saying as I entered Social Work also because of "circumstances" and it helped me discover my calling! What I learned from this regarding choice is that I can choose to have an open mind and open heart and this can transform my life!
Roy Bourque 20+
My ambition was to become an architect as my father was a master carpenter. I felt that the military was a must as it would provide we with education benefits not otherwise available to me. My interest in the Navy was sparked by the TV series "Sea Hunt". The recruiter pointed me in the direction of the nuclear power field and I was faced with a decision that would alter my goals. It would require a six year enlistment, but would educate me in a field that had good prospects. I took him up on the offer as it was the best available option for me at the time.
When I was nine years old, I had an experience while meditating on God. It revealed the basics of quantum mechanics even though I had no prior knowledge of what quantum mechanics was all about. In my navy training, I learned of quantum mechanics, bringing the former experience to light. It began a thought process that would take a lifetime to complete.
Upon discharge from the navy, I filed for unemployment while job hunting. The city to which I applied for benefits notified me of a job offer to which I would be qualified. I applied for the job, took the test, and was selected as the best candidate. The job wasn't what I was looking for, but I felt it was where God wanted me to be. So I gave it my best, eventually becoming the control room supervisor.
Meanwhile, I conducted a lot of personal research into religious studies to try and sort out the kinds of experiences that I have had from time to time. The purpose of the research was to determine what I believed, why I believed it, and if I could support my belief in any way. I have not been disappointed. I recently wrote a book about it called "The Merging of Two Worlds". I am presently trying to figure out where the next step will lead.
I can honestly say that I played the cards I was dealt. But I am not the dealer.
Aneesah Bakker
I feel privileged to be sitting here, taking in your response. Thank you for that.
So much of what you say just resonates so fully with me. I feel so connected to you as you share your story, especially that "When I was nine years old, I had an experience while meditating on God. It revealed the basics of quantum mechanics even though I had no prior knowledge of what quantum mechanics was all about."
It is clear to me that you must have experienced many insights, epiphanies and breakthroughs. (ps. this is an additional conversation I am having here on TED...
http://www.ted.com/conversations/11360/our_greatest_gift_is_our_capac.html?c=462695
I am more than curious about your book. I worked through the book "Walking in this World" by Julia Cameron for 7 months last year and had amazing epiphanies, that led me to writing about Walking in TWO Worlds while riding on the bus... it meant that much to me. Since then, I often reflect on this idea of dancing in two worlds and just wrote about this in my journal this morning! This is a synchronicity. Now if only I can find a way to bridge this conversation with my other :-)
Which 2 worlds? the limited and the unlimited? I really look forward to the privilege of enjoying your book! i wish we could have a whole conversation on it.
regards
Aneesah
Roy Bourque 20+
The two worlds are the scientific and religious (spiritual). Some see religious and spiritual as different. I see the one as a catalyst to reach the other. The fact that it isn't being taught that way is a concern of mine, but I still see them as related as that is how it happened with me. One was meant to lead into the other. Modern religion completely whitewashes it.
I have had several epiphanies as well as a feeling that I am being guided by a higher spirit. The connections seem to be far more than coincidence. The book talks about my experiences, insights, and the events that have shaped my life. It is available on Amazon in soft cover, hard cover, and E-book.
I will check out your other conversation later this evening. Have you written a book?
Thanks for the kind words.
Roy
Aneesah Bakker
I will look up your book on Amazon. We are in different time zones (I just woke up). I have an exciting morning facilitating An Artist's Way session where creativity is seen as a spiritual path!
I did write a book. Passion to Performance that I use as a "workbook" in my workshops and coaching. You can find it for free on Scribd & Slideshare.
I look forward to reading your book.
Bernard Seremonia
- doubt the existence of God (3 years),
- not let this doubt happen continuously and fight to find the truth of God (10 years), until no slightest doubt for me, and ended with the truth about the existence of God (at least in my opinion).
- 2 years more to study how to convert this understanding (faith) become a real experience of God's existence
- And still continues to strive in order to successfully gain the real experience (beyond faith)
It's the best choice in my opinion, because this option further expand my awareness of the broader reality than I have ever known. It's the best choice that delivers a big dramatic leap for me to get more subtle on peace & love than before. It's my lucky choice. and I am still waiting for another thrill experiences.
And yes, actually it's my always never ending greatest choice
Aneesah Bakker
Possibility is a leap into the unknown, a leap of faith and beyond. The best choices are those when we trust our inner navigational system and these are what I call "authentic" choice because they are about expanding peace and love. Yes, choose love.
In my experience, I have also found that choosing does involve taking on certain practices, actions, and responsibility.
I agree with you that such choices are "always a never ending greatest choice". It's like every moment is a new opportunity to choose... bliss, peace, love, happiness....
Bernard Seremonia
True. Getting the truth is not only to be expected. Struggling to find the truth instead of playground for children, it is for the adults. It takes courage to deal with persistent mental fatigue.
Hard enough to get the sweetest fruit. But it's worth. That's the value for the Truth, True Treasure.
Yes you are correct, i like the way you said "authentic".
Thank you :)
Kim Laes
Aneesah Bakker
The best choices I make is when I choose to become aware of the NOW, and to notice when I am making disempowered choices so I can choose better.