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How can we avoid being judgemental?

1.Is being judgemental neccesary a bad thing?
2.How can we avoid being judgemental?
3.It is said that we should not judge the appearance by the book, but doesn't appearance already tells us something about it?

Please share your advices and tips.

Thank you.

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    May 10 2012: Is the following reasonable? Judgmental is to Judging as Racism is to Race Awareness. My point is that Judging is not bad, but being judgemental is bad. Just as racial awareness, which is part and parcel of diversity, is good, while racism is bad. We should not strive to avoid using our ability to judge, but we should make every effort to avoid making flagrant condemnations and unwarranted censures. Good thought, Ms. Sim, thank you.
    • May 12 2012: Hi Edwars, thanks for your helpful comment. In other words, we should make the best of our ability to see beyond instead of just what is on the surface. Do you mean it's not about judging or not judging, its rather more of how should we judge and what do we gain out of the judgement we made?
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        May 12 2012: Yes, Fenni, I believe the power to judge fairly and correctly is a virtue to be sought after. Judging is not a bad thing if it is fair and based on objective fact. I think there is a big difference between showing good judgment (a virtue), and being judgmental (a vice). Thank you.
  • May 9 2012: Being Judgemental can be good just in some cases when your doing it to yourself for personal improvement and when your a manager,teacher,boss of certain work , and judging a person job performance and then give feed back to improve

    But juding others like friends,family, coworkers, and others people is incorrect You cant judge without knowing someone background . You dont know if a person have passing to a depression of any kind , or the person maybe be having finacial problems,hant have right education , or be with a disease and ect.
    And about people appearance is still the same. Everything is about background you dont know if that person dress in black cause he or she was child abuse , you cant judge a woman that has ugly hair cause she dont have money to fix it , or a man dont shave cause he just never feel like it
    The best way stop being judgemental is to rember your not perfect neither them
    • May 12 2012: Hi Norma, yes i couldn't agree more. We are not in any way perfect to have the right to judge people we dont know about.
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    May 8 2012: Of course like you suggest everything we meet tells its own story. The thing is that we don't need to judge anything as good or bad because of this. Everything is fine as it is by reasons we don't always understand. Some things appeal more to us than other things so we are attracted to it which is good but what we don't like doesn't need our judgment.

    A way for practice is to watch indifferently. Try to see without saying to yourself anything. Don't say I like this, I don't like this or this look like this or that or this is this or that. Don't even say in yourself: this is a tree or a oak I see, not even a name for the name isn't what you see. Just look at the colors, the shape, the tallness and feel. Watch and see what you feel.
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    May 8 2012: sometimes being judgemental do end up doing nothing!!