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Aneesah Bakker

Owner/Director/Developer, Creative Change Coaching

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When we think we have no options, can we change our perception? Does having options make us happier?

Like with "everything", so too there "is" a paradox of choice.

1. Are we happier when we think we have a choice?
2. What if circumstances are such that there "are" no choices, e.g. during the holocaust. Lessons learned indicate that perceiving a choice in such circumstances can create "happiness".
3. Can too much choice, create unhappiness?
4. Are there different types of choices?
5. Whose responsibility is it to change our perception?
6. In any given situation, would you try to change the circumstances before you try to change your perspective?
7. Can the economics of happiness be separated from the economics of things/consumerism?

A related ted talk on the Ted radio hour is the talk by Barry Schwartz: Does Having Options Make Us Happier:


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  • May 12 2012: Hi Jenny thank you very much for your responce, about your question if I consider myself as altruistic ,I have to answer that im not because I dont have this quality it can only be reavealed in the connection between us...If we consider nature as a allegory of forces that is a perfect system then it cant be another way that we are not able to sence it with our five sences like taste,hearing,smell,touch,and seeing.
    With other words what we are percieving with our five sences is corrupted because we are recievers or negative force (egoistic) If we consider nature as the giving force of everything that is perfect,it doesnt matter how we call it :nature or Creator,or Light then it is the positive force.But we recieve this forces with our egoistic 5 sences so we dont get the real picture.This is only posible when we are able to raise above our egoistical desires and become equal to the positive force.
    Between this two forces we can find the balance.We need another mindset that makes the chsange from Me into We. If we connect with the right intention then its posible that we reveal the positive forces between us.
    This is how I look at it but of cause everyone has to find it out for themself

    This is a quote of Albert Einstein about the subject:“A human being is a part of the whole, called by us “Universe,” a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest — a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. Nobody is able to achieve this completely, but the striving for such achievement is in itself a part of the liberation and a foundation for inner security.”

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