- Margo Mitchell
- Flagstaff, AZ
- United States
How we learn to become vulnerable gracefully. I tend to swing from one extreme to the other - never good.
I was what they call "counter-dependent" until my mid/late 30's. I refused to allow myself to be vulnerable in relationships due to my childhood experiences. Once I realized that the only way to get the emotional intimacy I craved so much was to allow myself to be vulnerable; I just bared my soul to the first person who came along. It was a long and considerably painful lesson in discernment, and it nearly killed me. Still, I refused to give up, refused to put the walls back up, and slowly I have grown. How have you learned to be more vulnerable? Have you made the mistakes I did? Did you find that any pain made you want to pull back into your shell and say, "forget it, it's not worth it"? What did you do?